Why We Get Angry & How to Stop It: ADHD Talk
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I can be totally calm and telling you a
nice story of something like I was just thinking about… I forgot again because
I’m ADHD, you know I was thinking about this way with this microphone we are
getting a much richer voice because the microphone is behind money, so… I’m sorry
so I can come with a stupid comment like that and then afterwards you might say
anything that triggers something in my hyperactive mind and with feeling of
guilt that we always have and the feeling of overhanging doom, it becomes
natural that becomes an explosion and that this explosion can be quite violent
until you learn, like I have done hopefully to control this anger but it’s
still it is like the feeling becomes like why does he or she say that and and
it wasn’t necessary why and now those people have been listening and this one
has been hearing and they probably know what has happened and so on and so on
and so on we our mind is so enormously quick that sometimes it can be really
difficult to stop it really difficult now for instance I could get angry because the guy over there is playing (music) but
we have the open marketplace here in in the Gibraltar it’s Valentine’s Day
everybody seems to be in a loving and caring and lovely mood and his music is
actually quite nice it just pisses me off because it disturbs me when I’m
doing my video but that is not a reason to get angry. You have to learn
take it all into the same account if I allow myself every time you say
something wrong so anybody says something wrong directly
starting to bark around and shout and insult and everything then I’m getting
so used to this kind of a reaction that it becomes a normality for me it’s not
any longer something wrong and my brain will directly go into the mode of being
a nasty little shit but it is also because you’ve gathered so much inside
of you you see when I do a Rorschach test with you I find that the the card I
chose the aggression the outgoing aggression which should be normal,
so that you always lit a little bit out compared to the in going aggression the
aggression you swallow down or where your pile it up and at the end whoops it all
goes out this is not balanced it has to be balanced, with normal people
it is balanced and you are a normal person which means you can balance it yourself
look at the other person’s reality then you know exactly why he needs to do it
or she and then you can have a little smile because you were right in your
assumption that’s what I often do and that I have found makes people more
annoyed than anything else if I don’t react to it because everybody when they come
out with something nasty they expect something nasty and when it doesn’t come
“I’m loser” yeah they think yeah but in reality I’m
the winner every single time and when they realize it that’s when they get
nasty or at least angry because by then I’m already gone there are people
who do that they are not interesting for me so I move away I just roll it… round
on the river

11 thoughts on “Why We Get Angry & How to Stop It: ADHD Talk

  1. I think Adhd's thinking is either very fast or not . There is no middle. I am trying to regulate this with meditation these days.

    Another point I have to worry about is the fact that I have an approach anxiety. Especially for women. I get a lot of stress from conversation with the other person. Probably because I had a lot of experience of being humiliated because I could not focus on the other person since I was a child.

  2. Love your work 💖💖. . 😊😊. To help people without expecting anything in return is to step into ones higher self.. Sensational simply Divine 😊😊

  3. ““hello Frank your words of wisdom I love and also love you for helping me with your advice. I get angry a lot its 4.30am and have to meditate and get ready for my run I got diagnosed when I was 52 years old having coffee thinking of having one more I really can't wait to go on meds, but I have high Blood Preacher and they will not give them to me until it goes down I control it with exercise lots of water and a healthy life still, I was on weeds most of my youth and was self-employed but now can't work, because I of my temper with the Police telling to stop climbing on pols traffic lights balance on reals because I feel so happy helps me focus and because I Push much my self so much to know what I am about not to drink or take drugs because I pushed everyone away my sisters brothers friends my own family this makes me hurt inside all the time I had to find out why and started reading up on ADHD which as you know its hard for me my mind wanders in so many thoughts and disappointments in my life I cant keep quite when I am upset when people are Horebull winds me up, I need to put them in their place but that the promlem took me for ever to find out only by readingthis, https://www.healthyplace.com/self-help/adhd/finding-the-best-job-for-your-adhd-brain its been a very long jouney for me . I lift school when I was 11 and was working mum had to bring up 4 kids on her own I hare school is just like you from one thing to the next if I don't say I am going to do something I forget. or get distracted this all the time. it's a bit too much for me and all wanted was to find my self after 20 years of meditation only to find out I have this ADHD and I thought it was everybody else not me that how Normal I felt the only writing so much that people like my self can read about how I feel to see if they have it or not I'm alone a reclose with great sadness because of my anger the running makes it worse but helps have a good sleep when to bed at 4pm and I was up and 1 am tidy the house for a few months I been a night Person and going to bed in the morning and up in the afternoon I sleep between 9 and 11 hours depending on how many carbs I eat but Protine. for focus, I also read yolks are good for ADHD.

  4. I was in Asda yesterday and I just fin a 10-mile run I was soaked with sweet! and went up to the Pharmacist to ask something about this baby vits i was buying and there was a guy asking him if he could use his mobile so he said No so I gave him mine to make a call and I called him a PRIiCK AND WAS NASTY TO HIM BECAUSE HE WA NOT NICE THIS WHAT I AM LIKE WITH THE POLICE IS WELL THAT'S WHY I HAD TO FIND OUT WHY THEY WOULD NOT LIVE ME ALONE FOR THE PAST YEARS JUST BECAUSE I EXERCISED THEY COME TO ME ASK ME SILLY QUESTIONS ITS THERE JOB I KNOW I FELT PICKED ON AND REACTED VERY ANGRY SO THEY HURT ME TAKE ME TO COURT WHEN THEY STARED IT BUT NOW I KNOW I HAVE IT THEY COME TO ME AND SAY WHAT YOU DOING AND I SAY DONT WIND ME UP I HAVE ADHD AND WE START TALKING AND IT COMES OUT NICE AND WE HAVE A GOOD CONVERSATION THAT'S GOOD POINT OF KNOW I KNOWING BUT I M SURE THERE LOTS OF THINGS I CAN
    LEARN! AND I AM BUT GOD ITS EVERYDAY NOW I NEVER USE TO READ AS MUCH AS I DO NOW OR THE CONDITION HELPS AND PEOPLE LIKE YOU HELP A LOT FRANK. TO UNDERSTAND I AM NOT ALONE THERE LOTS OF HELP PUT THERE IT JUST I AM SO MISUNDERSTOOD.

  5. You are right about the build up. So I have controlled the initial anger, but now it lingers and rebuilds sometimes.

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