(Intro Music) What to do when you are upset Hello there Inevitably in life, You’re going to line up with an experience which causes you to feel negative emotion. We call this an UPSET. An UPSET is essentially your internal guiding system telling you that at this current moment Your Actions or words or thoughts are not in alignment with your desire. Its essentially your inner compass telling you that you have gone ”off” due north. If you feel UPSET It’s critical to know that you *cannot* control an UPSET once it has happened. You can’t go back in time The reality is you’re feeling negative emotion. It’s how you respond to that negative emotion that makes the difference between going even ”Further off” course Or Allowing yourself to come back “on course.” So, that you’re headed due north again. When we don’t use an upset to cause us to become aware, what we don’t use it to awaken us that we have to become conscious of something we are unconscious of what we do is we tend to react! For example we slam doors or smoke the cigarette or yell at people or take an action that we feel gives us power over someone else. This reaction is the resistance to what’s happening and so it only serves to make matters worse! For this reason, I am gonna give you a formula to follow to create resolution once upset has occurred. Step 1. Re-arrange the order of the conjunct words that make up UPSET Once you do this, you arrive at an interesting truth. It’s in upset that you are being SET UP! by the universe at large. The universe is setting you up to be completely aware of something. You are being set up to awaken. You are being set up to integrate what is unacknowleged, unintegrated or heal what is unhealed within you Because it is a set up, acknowledge this is not the universe working against you this is the universe offering an opportunity Because the universe is alerting you to an opportunity to awaken you can treat an upset like an alarm clock going off or red flag popping up or my personal favorite, a meditation bell. But the discomforts of the upset snap you awake and bring all of your focus to the present moment. so that all of your conscious attention can be placed on the situation at hand. It’s best to address each upset as if that upset is in fact completely valid It’s not a question whether if its right or wrong to feel upset Its valid to feel upset. So instead of suppressing, denying, disowning, rejecting these feelings instead let yourself feel those feelings completely. Two When you are upset, your nervous system kicks into high gear it essentially goes into fight or flight mode trying to remove you from what it perceives as a threat Its really difficult to deal appropriately with an upset when your nervous system is in that state of fight or flight. So what I want you to do are the following things.