Tony Robbins: Control Your THINKING (Tony Robbins motivation)

[Music] there are certain patterns that people do who succeed in certain patterns that people do who are frustrated or overwhelmed I want to share with you what those patterns are because it’s not about just giving you some little time planner but that’s not going to change your life a normal piece of software will change your life is learning how to control and direct your own mind and emotions and doing it a way that really gives you what you want versus what maybe your environment may be demanding from you right now I hope that sounds like a journey that’s enticing to you because if it is I think that the skills are going to get here will give you a lot more than what you expected when you signed up to this course by the way you signed up for a program here called more time and yet you know there isn’t anymore so why would you sign up for a course like that well probably because inside of you you know that there’s more time for what matters for you if you restructured your life a little bit I mean I know how to do that but as part of you knows that that’s really possible or you wouldn’t even get a program like this in fact I have a really important question for you that is what is time I mean think about it what is it what would you say if somebody said what is time people of all kinds of interesting answers that they are the calendar it’s a measure of activity some people say but I would say to you that time is nothing but emotion time is a feeling and we forget that and that’s why we get stressed because we don’t think about our feelings we trace to-do lists and we focus on activities and very often we get all of our to-do list early cause of all the activities we’re still not fulfilled many times we’ve got a bunch of movement but we really don’t have any achievement much less the good feeling that we’re pursuing I mean think about it time you’ve had experiences a life war time flew right where hours me I felt like minutes especially if you’re with somebody loved you’re doing something that really juiced you as a person something you’re really passionate about so you and I got to get clear that if we’re going to have more time we really have to have as more of the emotions we deserve that we’re gonna have to learn how to direct and shape our own lives in a new way and by the way the promise has been given to us throughout the years was that technology was going to give us more time right how does it work for you so far I don’t know about you but I found that I my life became somewhat more successful it actually became much more stressful and with technology instead of that freeing me on some ways it’s my own fault the technology almost became the master of my life I found myself limiting and living a life that felt limited by all these reactions I was having what I mean by that is work no longer was something I did at the office work with something that followed me on my belt with my peeper it showed up in emails wherever I was in the world and it showed up on my cellular telephone and I was constantly reacting and then wondering like gosh I have all this activity and I have no time and I’m not really feeling very happy even though I’m doing some good things the reason is because there is one thing and it’s not technology that’ll change your life and you know what’s great about this one thing is it’s one of the most powerful forces in your life and the good news is this force this power is something you’ve been using your whole life and that is the power of focus just by changing what we focus on we change literally what we feel well you focus on to a great extent determines whether you’re succeeding or whether you’re failing in your business in your career with your children in your intimate relationships as well so focus really determines the quality of our lives whether or not you’re fulfilled or whether or not you just feel stressed is really a matter of focus and ultimately your achievement level is clearly directed on where do you focus where do you put your energy or emotion your time but the challenge is that most of us don’t direct it consciously and dr. waters are incredibly stressed because we don’t consciously direct our focus extraordinary people to produce extraordinary results have a different way of thinking opah is a different way of thinking it models what it is I learn from being around several million people some famous some not so famous but maybe more profound and what they’ve done for the world and for themselves I think Wow in business and in life the way you focus your mind will determine your success or failure I hear the challenge most of us don’t direct our focus because we’re in reaction to environmental stimulus what that means in technical terms made simple there’s three things in our life that tend to grab our focus and make us react rather than really live our life on our own terms what first gets your focus things that have the potential to give you pain things that you kind of worry about things that you are challenged by things that you think could be a real problem that tends to get our focus and we tend to call that worry worry is an achiever word for fear we’re fearful but something Bad’s going to happen so we put a lot of attention into it and sometimes at the expense of things that are much more important like our family or help sometimes worry about things that’ll never happen I think what happens for most of us is fear gets our focus it’s natural it’s our survival instinct to avoid pain but we’ve got to break out of it if we want an extraordinary quality of life and think differently I’m going to show you some ways that you can do that for yourself the second thing that tends to get our focus the things that can give us pleasure especially immediate pleasure why well think about it we’re stressed a lot of the time we want to get out of that stress so we look for something to make ourselves feel good does that’ll happen real quick and very often we pick things that make us feel good for the moment but don’t really make our life better long term very often what you’ll do to feel good is go clean off your desk right I used to do this all the time I got all these projects doing where to start them over whelmed on my desk is messed up let me just arrange everything here because you know what I can complete all that and feel really good about myself because truthfully self-esteem and I hate that term because it’s overused but a person’s sense of identity our sense of certainty that our lives our sense of worth is tied directly to our feeling that we control events not events control us we feel like events are controlling us our self-esteem drops our level of stress increases so a lot of us do is try and get control of it by doing little things or by doing something we’re really good at you know let’s say you spend a lot of time in your work and you don’t spend much time with your kids because at work you feel like you’re in control gosh kids are a challenging thing they’re so different they’re so unique you think you get all handles and they surprise you with something new right so very often we try to focus on those things we feel good about sometimes it’s expensive the overall value of our life and again we’re reacting stuff the third area that tends to get our focus if we don’t put the stakes in the ground up front here’s what I’m gonna focus on here’s what I want for my life I sure enough we get to tend to get caught up in other people’s demands and then our life becomes about responding to other people’s urgencies and reacting my CeBIT Tony you know my supervisor is going to do that or my boss is going to do that yes but I think you’re going to find when you learn this open system you’re going to be able to get your boss to get results they never had before you’re going to be able to do more for them and they’ve ever seen before and you’ll be how will literally help them to manage you and themselves more effectively if you have a supervisor if you’re in charge quote-unquote now I’d be going to find that there’s going to be a great deal of fulfillment and you won’t be responding to everybody’s demand there either does that sound like it might be useful I tell you something as long as responding to the things that concern you the potential for pain or worry as long as you’re trying to get a quick fix of feeling good as long as you’re spotting the people’s demands you’re living a life of reaction and you won’t get the level of fulfillment much less the results that you really deserve so how do we turn that around well first of all you understand the price of focusing on what you fear and I’ll give you a fun simple example years ago I had I took up a fun sport which is auto racing and when I first went to this racing school the very first time you get there here’s what they do with you they put you in a car and they say we’re going to show you what an automobile is capable of and what you can do you get mixed with this race car driver and they take you through this course and they’ve won 140 miles an hour straight at a wall and a corkscrew turn and your heart’s beating out of you and they do it and by the end of this thing they look at you and say you know and four days you’re going to be able to do this and you think to yourself you’re joking there’s no way that’s going to happen but they say let me tell you the secret the reason you’re scared right now is you don’t know what you do if you got out of control you don’t know what you do if you got caught up in a spin and I said so before you ever learn to drive the most important skill that you got to develop is learning how to come out of a spin quickly when the man was telling you this I thought what a great metaphor for life because we all do really well when things are going well it’s when we go into a spin when things aren’t working out well when things that are stress will happen that we kind of get lose control of the direction of our lives and start reacting and pretty soon our fear tends to cause us to end up on the rocks or in the wall so to speak so I said okay well what’s the seat he said it’s really simple Tony here’s how it works here’s how you come out of a spin focus on where you want to go like this left hand turn we’re going to need to make don’t focus on the wall in front of you if you focus on what you fear the wall guess what happens and then you focus on it you steer in the direction of what you focus on and your life or your car moves that direction if you focus on what you want you will automatically steer everything in the direction of what you want he said you were hearing about you know somebody driving down like a a desert highway and it was like a telephone pole every quarter of a mile and this guy’s driving his Porsche 100 miles an hour and it’s the telephone pole I said yeah I go back all the time he said you know why as soon as people start to fill out they’re out of control they focus on what they are plated hitting and they drive right into it I thought that’s a great metaphor for life he said so all you got to do is don’t get scared even if you do get scared you will even though you’re fearful focus on what you wanted not what you fear I said no problem I teach this stuff how do you think I did not very good because what happened was he was smart he got me driving for a while I was concentrating I was waiting I knew any moment he’s going to do this but see life doesn’t give things to you it doesn’t give you challenges when you’re ready for them like just when everything’s going great that’s where life comes by and gives you a little test that’s like when our creator says it’s time for you to grow and you’re not ready for it so you’re going to grow the most right now and so sure enough I’m driving for 10 to 15 minutes I’m waiting for support the button after a while I kind of just get caught up in the rhythm stuff you know kind of like getting caught up in your life and all sudden he pushes the button we start spinning a control what do you think the first place my brain goes Wham right at the wall I’m driving right into it he is smart though he wants to save our lives he grabs my head and forces me to look in the direction we need to turn I’m fighting because I want to see myself die fortunately keeps holding my head now as I turn and focus on where I want to go without realising what do I instantly do I turn in the direction of what I want I got a question for you though do you think the minute you turn and you do the right thing now I’m doing the right thing I’m turning the right direction do you immediately get rewarded for that we have a thing called momentum that’s still going on we’re in what we call lag time right now where we’re doing the right things but we’re not getting the reward because of the old momentum it’s kind of like the eighth like hacks for 30 years and now you’ve eaten well for two days and you go gosh I’m not getting the result yet keep focusing keep eating the right way and it’ll turn but you got to keep the faith you can’t look back at the wall because that’s what you want to do you want to look back and go it’s not working I want to see the failure I want to see the crash of course they keep holding my head and what happens sure enough we turn and a few seconds later the wheels catch and we turn and we missed the wall by about 2 or 3 feet my heart is beating out of me he goes did you learn I learned that I learned no so three or four more times of doing this of him forced in my head watched or I finally got it down I got a very important question for you though if you focus on where you want to go are you guaranteed not to have problems guaranteed not to hit the wall answers no you could still get the wall let me ask the alternative question if you focus on what you fear if you focus on the problem if you focus on the challenge ahead of you and you drive yourself into that are you going to crash the answers a hundred percent yes so there’s no guarantee in life but if we focus on what we want our outcome which is when OPA stands for the first oh and oppa is outcomes what do I really want if we focus on that our chances increased geometrically we focus on our fear we got a real problem so the obvious question becomes okay well then how do I control my focus Tony do I just think positive let me give you a clue I don’t believe in positive thinking I don’t believe you should go to your garden and say there’s no weeds there’s no weeds there’s no weeds and do a bunch of affirmations I got news really they’ll take your garden I believe in something really simple I believe in seeing life as it really is but not worse than it is see most people say well I’m just a skeptical person I’m just a pessimistic person but the really thing is I’m fearful I don’t want to get my hopes up I don’t want to be disappointed again but I’m going to tell you in life you got to see it it is and not worse than it is you can’t try and protect yourself or you protect yourself from success you protect yourself from joy you got to get your hopes up to make life work so see it as it is but not worse than it is second you have to see it better than it is otherwise there’s no drive to make things better you got to get a vision for what you want what’s the outcome what’s the vision for your life otherwise you’ll get caught up in the two dews of daily living and you’ll say gosh you know I don’t know what it is but I feel like my life is about making a living instead of really experiencing life so when if you get a view of what your outcome is of what you really want Wow the game changes for you and then once you know how it is and then you have a vision for how you want it to be then the obvious third step to succeeding is you got to make it the way you want it and what we’re going to show you what OPA planning is how to do that now from a practical perspective how do you actually change your focus in a second well the way you and I do it is by asking questions you see when we say we’re thinking well really doing is asking and answering questions in our mind on a consistent basis that’s all thinking is thinking of the process of asking and answering questions if you ask a lousy question what are you going to get allow the answer so if your question is how come I can never lose weight your brain gives you an answer cuz you’re a pig or if you say how come I can never pull this off your brain says nah cuz you’re a schmuck cuz you’re you’re not ready because you came from a dysfunctional family or whatever Lao the answer comes to a lousy question what would be a better question around this idea of losing weight well you could say well how come I can’t lose weight how could I lose weight challenge with that question it’s a little better but you’ll probably say I’d go on a diet and diets are painful so you probably don’t want to do that what would be a better question how about how could I lose weight and really enjoy the process that’s a different outcome a different result than just losing weight it’s losing it and enjoying it now if you ask how can I lose weight and enjoy the process your brain will give you a different answer because you’re asking a better question now it might say you know what I’ve always wanted to learn to horseback ride or play polo or whatever it is you love to do now maybe I’ll go do that I love to play basketball what if I give a basketball I’m not even thinking about losing weight it’ll happen automatically if you want a better answer for your life you get ask better questions if you want a better plan you better ask better questions and by the way this is true of some of them riveting aspects of her life because all human beings lives are driven by the question that some people succeed in life and they ask the question you know what’s wrong with me they wonder why they feel depressed all the time or why can’t I figure things out it to be very careful about the questions we ask ourselves does this make sense I hope it does whether it’s a Martin Luther King asking a question about his dream and how we can have equality or whether it’s a fun quote or a powerful quote or whether it’s a question of a leader like Robert Kennedy but we know the famous quote said some people see things that were done and they ask why I look at things that were never done and asked why not if you want to change your life you’ve got to change your questions and if you want to change the experience of planning you gotta stop asking that silly question everybody asks where they’re going to plan something I used to default five what is the question we all ask we’re going to plan something what do I need to do that is the wrong question so why is that a lousy question why do we not want to start out we’re trying to plan our day or a week or a month our life by saying what do I need to do because you don’t know the answer what you need to do until you decide what it is you want what is it you’re looking for in your life I mean if you think about it we’ve seen all these new time management systems come out and I’ve used them all and they all added some value to my life but none of them really helped me to achieve at the level I now achieve and they certainly didn’t help me to really be fulfilled they were about making up my to-do list of all the things I needed to do and I found myself at the end of the day even when I crossed everything off very often still not feeling fulfilled because a lot of times I got everything done but I didn’t really achieve anything and I’ve learned in my life not the mistake movement for achievement see a hundred years ago 200 years ago maybe it’s okay to make it to-do list because life wasn’t that complex I think today is you’re the mom you’re the dad you’re the husband or the wife you’re the lover you’re the community activist you’re the top P performance athlete you’re the marketing manager for the company you’re part of the coach of the little league team and what you need to do it depends on you being a mom right now or you being a businessperson are you being a lover or you being a best friend are you being a daughter who you be so and we can’t just try and manage all these roles also of our lives and expect we’re going to have a life that’s fulfilling well there’s so much going on we need a simple system that will help us before we try to design a plan for our time it’s really designed a plan for our life and that’s what you’re going to do is starting today and it’s not perfect and it isn’t something that’s rid you to gives you all kinds of flexibility but it allows you decide hey these are the years of my life I’m really going to focus on I’m going to make sure I put a certain amount my time and focus right here and my family like here to my physical body side the energy I want right here and my emotional well-being right here is big marketing manager right here in my business and empowering the people that I work with so that we have a great environment that we don’t just get results but we have fun so we’re going to show you a system for how to do that and once you have the plan for your life then your planning will not start with that silly question what do I need to do that’s a lousy question you’re gonna ask a different question you’re gonna have three of them in a very specific order I’ll just tell you up front it’s really simple they opah words to answer the three questions before I tell you the three questions let me tell you what anyone who succeeds knows you find anyone who’s successful in any area life business buying it emotion they’re happy that’s a filled here’s what they know number one they know what they really want most people don’t know what they really want they don’t know what we call their outcome their result and when you don’t know what your outcome is we don’t know what you really want life can be really frustrating life becomes a bunch of things you have to do it doesn’t give you any juice you don’t have a clear direction for your life and without a clear direction very often you end up on the rocks of life you just you just don’t have the guidance you don’t have that sense of it my life has some kind of meaning the second thing that people succeed know is not only what they want but why they want it because the reasons are what drive us as human beings that sense of purpose that’s where the emotion is that’s where the juice is not just getting a target but knowing why will want that target that’s what will get you to have the energy to actually follow through and then the third question they know is what do I need to do to make that happen and people that know what they really want and know why they want it can usually figure out how to make it happen because they got enough to drive it enough clarity about what they want so opus stands for those three questions in a very specific way let me tell you what hope it gives you freedom because what happens in life is most of us think our to-do lists have to get done many times you don’t have to do your whole to-do list most of us know that 20% of what you do gives you 80% of your results of mine doesn’t it and so what we’re going to show you how to do is to have more flexibility have a lot more choices and get more results with more fulfillment by taking it to these three questions and I want to point something out hope is not a pine planner again it isn’t a book if you open this book ago it’s got a calendar and it’s got an A through Z and so do all these other programs or here’s a nice piece of software I thought no but open is a simple system of thinking that will change your focus which will immediately change how you feel it’ll change the direction you’re heading it’ll turn you into a connection and get you a different set of results not only is it a simple system of thinking that changes direction and results but it also makes you feel fulfilled cuz think of it the only difference between work and play is your purpose lot of people when they’re playing do things that are really actually hard work but they don’t call it hard work because they say it’s fun because they decided I want to do this this is a cool thing this is competitive or this is creative or this is strong and everyone I know succeeds their work has become play for them they had really found a way to enjoy what they do because they found an empowering purpose activity without purpose is the drain to your life it’s a drain to fulfillment it’s a drain to achievement so we’re going to get these little simple questions and I’m going to show you how to use them in a practical way this book will guide you to get greater results in greater fulfillment that’s the whole process of what hope is really about part of what Oprah is going to do is you’re going to put the stakes in the ground to say these are the most important things in my life I’m going to focus on them daily and you’re going to start noticing things it’ll bring you closer to what it is you really want if you focus on a to-do list guess what you get more to-do lists more like a fulfillment more things that have to do I don’t want you life to be about being a human doing I want to be about a human being where you experience what you really deserve what you really want this is a chance to really get fulfilled to change the emotions I mean would you like to feel more joy on a daily basis more passion more excitement a greater sense of confidence and certainty that comes from knowing that you’re in control of the event keep inserting control of you I want you to have a system that is your system your life management system that’s what okhla really is so I want to invite you to join me now come on this journey decide right now you’re going to do whatever it takes to master this because I can tell you that in my own life I feel so many great privileges and I’m sure some of must be walk there’s luck in anything but a huge part of it I can tell you honestly has been focused and focused on what I knew is most important in my life and I’ve created what I want for my life which may be different for you but I want you to have you want to have not what the environment is demanding from you not what your next email is requesting but what your heart and soul deserves and desires so to do that let’s start with an open to get started you know the outcome the outcome is really simple right now you got a side of I’m committed to mastering a system for managing all my life so my personal life and my professional life work together so nothing else to suffer and I believe it’s not only possible I’m committed to that result the next question is why why are you going to become not just good at this but outstanding what’s your reason that’s what we ask you to do right now and I want to thank you for letting you dump so much on you in the short period of time here you’re looking forward to hopefully meeting you someday soon but for right now let’s get focused and let’s get this life management system called oppa in your life now and again the journey towards a life of incredible results an extraordinary fulfillment [Music] you [Music] you know we’re living in a time and what stress seems to be almost epidemic especially for achievers everybody talks about being stressed especially those people are really trying to do something meaningful really accomplish something I want to make sure that your drive for success or to make a difference really leads to the joy and the fulfillment the excitement the passion and the pride that you’re really looking for in order to do that whether or not you’re feeling fulfilled or whether you’re feeling frustrated so a great extent has to do with where do you spend your time what zone what dimension of mind emotion and focus do you spend your time for example do you spend a lot of your time really looking for distraction looking for a way to escape the stresses that are already there in your life or do you spend more of your time getting seduced by things that really aren’t important but they appear to be urgent and you kind of delude yourself and saying well I got to do this right now and really truly you don’t have to do it right now but you add that additional stress or do you spend your time in drama where you’re doing things that really are important and they’re really urgent you got to leave deadlines after he met right now maybe some of the deadlines that are stressing you out now because things weren’t handled earlier on or have you managed to spend the majority of your time in your life and what I call the zone the zone of fulfillment that dimension where you’re doing things that are really important for not really urgent and as a result you tend to be at your best because you’ve taken away the stress take a look at what I call time target let’s start on the outside of this assembled name the outside circle here is really where most people spend their time it’s an escape in fact it’s doing things that are not urgent and they’re not important I call this the dimension of distraction or for short you can just call it the escape dimension this is what happens from those people they have all these goals and desires they don’t know how to manage them all so they look to escape how drinks in alcohol go and hang out go watch a television do something that for the moment is escape now is that all bad and all wrong the answer is no but if you spend the majority of your time there you won’t be fulfilled as a person and your stress will actually increase now the next circle closer into the target is that area that we call the dimension of delusion that’s because this is the area where you start doing things that are urgent it’s where you spend your time but they’re really not that important and what fits in this category emails I mean these days all someone’s going to type something and they can send as a 50 people with one keystroke so a lot of us end up with a lot of emails but don’t really they they beg us to respond immediately but would you agree with me a lot of it is just things that seem important but really aren’t important at all they’re just urgent because there’s this demand that says handle me I’m here on your screen the more classic examples the telephone I mean the phone rings and you’re in the middle of something really important and now you run to grab it and break the pattern of your focus and your feelings now if we go to the third ring the one closest to the bull’s eye that’s urgent and important items that’s the dimension of demand that’s where something says we got to do this right now we’re gonna have to spend time there and a good portion of your life if you’re an achiever is spent there but if you spend too much area too much time too much focus too much emotion in the area called demand and that dimension you’re going to be one stressed character so you’ve got to have a certain percentage of time here but not more than you need and life will give you plenty of urgent and important things to deal with without you not doing your part where do you want to spend the majority of your time you want to hit the bull’s eye as often as possible that bull’s eye is the dimension of fulfillment that’s when you’re doing things that are really important but they’re not urgent right in now what fits in that category your house most people wait till they have a health problem to try and deal with it very often it’s too late we got to make that something that even though it’s not urgent we make import and we make that the time we spend no matter what we spend time and what’s important so one of the secrets here is to identify where do you spend your time are you spending 20% your time in the zone 60% of your time and urgent and important called the dimension of demand and then 5 and 10 or whatever and the other two are you spending 50 percent of your time in the zone let’s do some time accounting of last week go for it let’s do it right now [Music] so what did you discover where are you spending your time the optimum time the goal is to spend close to 50% your time doing things that are important but not urgent at least 40% of the time if you’re in that 10 or 20% I know you’re going to be stressed and you’re not going to be as effective as you could possibly be does that make sense people my company will tell you I believe that anything we really want to get done if we’re committed there’s a way to do it there’s some form of lovers someone else could speed it up for someone else we could trade with we could do something else we could make it happen this way if you can do that your life will feel more fulfilled singing a dance class walking on the beach climb alone time with a friend I don’t know what it is but what does it feel maybe write those down guess what will bring you to the zone day after day after day oppan when you ask that question what’s the most important outcome to me it will cause you to focus on what’s most important to you not just what’s urgent but what will bring you there is this life management system and this focus on outcomes so how my soldier yet you got to make sure you focus on spending as much time as possible doing what’s important and not urgent get yourself in that 40 50 60 % I’ll there and you’re in for a great time with a lot of stress an amazing amount of choice thank you I’ll bet I know where you want to spend the rest of your life in the zone right well for me this is the zone what is it for you now let’s go back to Tony UPG and he’s going to show you just as he showing me how to create the life plan that will play pew in the zone so I proceed [Music] now we’re going to talk about categories of improvement what we’re really talking about is creating a life plan for you now if you don’t have a plan you fall into somebody else’s why it’s the old thing of you fail to plan you plan to fail it’s an old overused phrase but it’s really true without a plan your focus goes to what you fear something that could give you pain or it goes to something that give you pleasure for the moment so you can get out of the stress or it goes to something that someone’s demanding for you we want you right now to begin to create a life plan in order to have a life plan you got to have something you can manage think of this as a life management system if you’re going to manage your life you got to look at what are the areas of your life that you really need to manage in order to succeed and be fulfilled we call these areas obviously areas of management there’s only two primary areas your life you really have to manage area one is obviously your personal life and we’re going to take a look at what are the areas that you need to focus on on a regular basis in your personal life in order for you to not only be fulfilled about a life that really works in your professional life there are a lot of different things you got to look at if you try to think about all of them at once it’s a bit overwhelming but virtually everything you do and your business life or career can fit into four five six or a dozen categories think of it as areas you’re going to focus on one reason we call them categories is we don’t want to just focus on them these are areas that we want to continuously focus on and do things to improve them now if you don’t come up with an area and actually define it life tends to grab your focus so for example in your personal life will be an area that you would need to continuously focus on and continuously improve if your life is going to work wonder your life would have to be your physical vitality and health if you don’t take care of that if you don’t focus on it does it get better automatically you and I both know the answer is no you have to put focus in it and you also have to measure it the same these two of your finances finances don’t get better by just hoping finances don’t get better without focusing on it we don’t focus on our finances tend to stay where they are get worse same thing is true of friendships relationships families to with your family same thing is true of your spirituality if you don’t want to focus on what you believe spiritually and making sure your during that you’re really aligning yourself with your creator or whatever you believe and you don’t feel that same level of fulfillment in that area of your life so we’re going to put the stakes in the ground and say you know what I’m another life plan it’s going to require me to continuously measure my progress in each of these areas i’ma set specific goals in each of these areas and when I go to plan my day instead of saying what do I need to do I’m going to say what’s most important for me to achieve because unless you come up with those categories your focus will go to the urgencies at the moment you’ll be pulled out of the zone and you won’t get the results or the fulfillment you deserve think of it this way you cannot manage what you can’t measure so you’ve got to stop and measure and say this is what it’s going to be in this and I’m going to achieve it in fact and it doesn’t matter for Ford of this little wheel of life it’s just a simple thing and let’s have you watch us do it and then do it for yourself like for example in this person’s case we say where is this person in these six areas their physical body where are they compared to where they want to be if the dot in the middle here is zero and the edge of the wheel is 100% where they want to be where are you are you on a percent are you attend physically or you’re 5 or a 3 or a 7 I’m going to say this person is as well I’m about 70% of what I’d like to be ideally okay well let’s figure out about 70% of the distance and draw a mark right now just like you look at emotional light for a second where are you emotionally compared to where you want to be emotion means how much joy how much passion how much excitement probably about 30 percent of where I want it to be welding draw a line it’s approximately 30% like we’re doing here let’s look at the next step let’s say your financial life where’s the converting wanted to be well I have very big goals I’m about 10% of where I want to be there someone else many say no I’m 90% of where I want to be okay well mark them let’s look at your family what what’s that like to go no that’s really good I’m really happy with that that’s about 80% where’s your spiritual life I’d say if I was honest to myself that’s about a 50% of where I really think it needs to be and lastly you say what about your career you say well my career is doing pretty good I give that 90% [Music] connect each one of these sections so they become a continuous outline form your shape I know look at the shape we got you if this was the tire on the car called your life how would your car drive well for most people it would be a rough ride the categories of improvement having these areas you’re not just going to focus on continuously but you’re going to constantly improve have specific goals for and plans for and that your life revolves around will not only take out of overwhelm but it’ll give you the power of balance because for most people to think of balance as a passive thing balance gives you this well-roundedness that allows that tire to go stronger and faster and put this greater and greater results while being more and more fulfilled we have two ways of management what are they they’re of course our personal life and then a professional life let’s just take one of them let’s take your personal and let’s come up with what are the areas of your personal life you’re going to continuously focus on and improve you get the idea okay you don’t do this perfectly and you can change this it only take you two or three minutes go ahead and do this right now [Music] now that was pretty easy wasn’t it I mean it doesn’t have to be perfect but you’ll tend to notice that most people their personalized have very similar categories because there aren’t that many areas of our life that we really need to focus on for our life to be fulfilled and to be successful and for to be balanced a professional life tend to vary a little bit more because it depends on your profession so now we’re going to make that set of category you know making sure I constantly improve my skills as a manager or as a salesperson or a marketer as an accountant or as a lawyer as a doctor this is an area I got to constantly improve to be happy to be fulfilled to be successful that’s an area I got to constantly focus on I can’t just improve it once in a while I’ve got to think about it and measure my improvement so I continue to have a competitive advantage and so they feel good about my life we want to keep that tire of your life round and strong so like a snowball you can only move smoothly and rapidly but it gets bigger and bigger so let’s decide what you’re going to focus on in your professional life which you’re going to constantly improve so this part of your life is as fulfilling as your personal life as well so let’s get started once you go ahead and start right now [Music] so how’d you do I’m sure not perfectly I know I was far from perfect meaning my first list of professional categories but you could make it better you’re getting a start here roles are the places where you think about yourself I guess I should say as you’re working in this area so for example if you go I got to work on my finances it’s different than you think you know I need to work on being my financial genius today because when you’re feeling a financial genius it makes you smile and put you in a different place in these areas of your life these categories of improvement let’s juice them up let’s say and the area of your physical body maybe we’ll put a word into their like world class business and then we want to create two or three roles maybe more who are you you’re an athlete or maybe an Adonis write something humorous something they’ll juicy up something will make you smile something will say wow when I think about that I want to go there I want to spend time in that particular area of my life I’m a pilot for example say my pilot of interesting I want to go you know I’m a licensed source of passion that makes me laugh that makes me smile that allows me to share that feeling with other people in a different way let me give you some specific examples and how that could affect you I had a woman who came to one of my seminars here for a more time and she was really frustrated really depressed and she raised her hand she goes what if you got categories but you don’t want to make any categories because you hate your job I said well you know let’s talk about that for a second what’s your job she says well I’m a schoolteacher and the look on her face made you know that she wasn’t too terribly thrilled about it so I said well what do you associate to being a schoolteacher what are your roles as a schoolteacher because when you have an idea of who you are you come up with these beliefs about what you are she goes well I’m a disciplinarian she goes I mean I’m basically the enforcer of the state’s will I’m a babysitter because their parents never took care of these kids and so I have to comple just want to babysit them she was rather harsh I said ma’am I understand how you feel but can I ask you a question why did you regionally become a school teacher I obviously wanted to be done at one time well I don’t know I thought I could make a difference I said what did you really want to be what is it being a schoolteacher mean to you back then what was the role of that and she said I guess I wanted to be a developer of the human spirit he wants her whole face just all of a sudden has changed I said there why don’t you just do that why don’t you be a developer the human spirit and she said well I see that you were a developer the human spirit versus a teacher what would the rules of the game be who would you be what would you do she goes well I was a developer the human spirit I’d have to love every child in my class and her whole face change start a smile I said if you were developing human spirit what else would you have to do because well I have to make learning fun I’d have to get to know the parents do not make them wrong and help them to understand their own children and what’s happening in their lives and she went on and on and she just I said so how do you feel about your job she goes I got a career and with that second of shift that happens when we change what something means words have power they change our biochemistry you ever had somebody call you a particular word and felt the change in your body words have power the right word they change what things mean to us give you one of the quick example woman comes to one of our seminars very frustrated stressed out hates our job what are you I’m a stockbroker on Wall Street what do you do as a stockbroker we got to go cold call a bunch of people trying to give them give your money and then then you got to follow up all the time and I just hate it okay well you can change the job but before you do you know what the problem of changing jobs is you take you with you you always think it’s the company of the problem and you go to a new job it feels okay for a while but pretty soon you’re back to the same problems I said what we got to do is change your mentality or psychology I said did you ever enjoy this she was one the beginning I was kind of excited about it and so let me ask you a question what are you really being what would be a role a way of describing what you do that would make you grin to the ear to ear what do you really want to because I want to be a mover and shaker and I said well you’re on Wall Street you work for one of the biggest firms in the world you’re doing quite well at the maybe that’s what you are and all things she smiles she goes damn right I am I said what else are you when you’re making cold calls forget that you want to be when you communicate with people on the phone and she said a treasure hunter she said I want to search for treasure I want to help people I want to get them to give me some money and go use it to find treasure for them and help them expand their treasure and she’s just her entire psychology change so what I want you right now I don’t want you to take each of these categories you have both in your personal life and professional life and I want you to juice them up maybe make the name of the area a little bit more juicy but most importantly come up with two or three roles that make it fun to be there little things make a big difference let me tell you what hope was going to do for you what most of stuff you know but maybe you have your own words for it or maybe at times you do this and other times you don’t all I’m doing is giving you a set of words a system that you probably already do at times but by knowing what it is you can do it consistently and not hope some of the time you feel good and sometimes you don’t if you’re heading in this direction right here and we make a little 10 degree shift with OPA that seems like nothing but we take that out a week from now a month from now six months of now you’re in a totally different destination in your life radically different difference and language and identity you’re a big part of that but start this process right now I’m juicing up your life I figure out what are the roles you’re going to play in these areas that are so important your life called categories improvement let’s do it right now [Music] we got those questions so now the big question is how do we turn this into a system well a big part of the system of Elah managed something besides knowing the outcome and why and the action item is created a visual chunking system now what the heck does that mean a visual tracking system let me give you an example when we are given kinds of information really quickly and we get this little bit of information business is this business in this in this list pretty soon a human being gets overwhelmed but if we find a way to connect various things to the period of time we can find a shake and pretty soon all these items might become three things I get the idea of what I mean by this so instead of all these individual items make you crazy chunking is grouping together individual items resources ideas or thoughts so that by grouping together they become more useful and part of what makes it more useful is by collecting together you’re able to focus on them and not become overwhelmed and they thought about thoughts yeah so I’ll give you an example and let’s test your chunking ability real fast I’m going to show you a series of letters and what I’d like you to do when I show you those letters as I want you to immediately shrink those letters what I mean if I showed you very briefly the camera should only look straight on here when I go to show you and I want you to write them down well you remember I’m gonna give you a very brief time to look at okay you’re looking up on the screen a probably the easiest way here we go okay write it down raise your hand if you’re finished raising have you finished okay great so I’ll turn it around now and then see how accurate you were how many got them all accurately in order let me kiss your hands keeping hands up so we got less than five percent of the room Bobby three percent of the room how many you got well how many letters are there I think there’s eleven one two three four five six seven eight nine ten eleven how many got of the eleven letters you got at least seven or more of the macula okay how many got less than five accurately how many got less than a less than five okay good so what if I said to you now how did you try to figure this out how did you try to remember this somebody someone who succeeded and did it sorry did you get them all okay tell me how you know what I want to see is how he chunked it I was chunking me he didn’t try to get the whole thing at once he grouped it in some way I’d be willing to bet that’s why he was able to retain it so how did you chunk this an EP QE l n au b QE l QR aw oh here you okay so he drugged he talked it into three chunks okay that helped him to remember it okay give me a nice job yes Tony I didn’t write them down I just flashed on it I know what the word is you know what the word was yeah okay what’s the word Albuquerque that’s correct what if I wrote this way how many of you would be able to write it down okay how many of you wrote it up that way you would have been able to write it down immediately they see a show of hands sure could you recognize Albuquerque because Albuquerque is one chunk for most of you but was all these things that were random most of you weren’t able to get it many of you tried and failed let’s see why you did now are you from Albuquerque do you know anybody in Albuquerque I’m I live about 100 miles why would he be able to see that when it has nothing like Albuquerque because when something becomes part of your focus like when you buy a certain car or you buy a certain outfit and also you see that color outfit everywhere well once you do that the all that information was always around you but it’s become important so part of your brain sees anything that would relate to it that’s also what happens when you have a clear outcome when you have a clear outcome suddenly you start seeing Albuquerque when other people see nothing but a mixture of stuff you start seeing with your outcome how to achieve it where no one else can figure it out because you have a clear outcome I did this once in a seminar a couple years ago and the lady said I know is it’s Albuquerque I said you live in Albuquerque she said no never live the ocean no I said you have a lover and Albuquerque don’t you and she went no I don’t and everybody saw are fissures and currency star allow she goes well I do have a lover how do you know how to love her because I know the person either having a proximity or something they had an emotional association to to unscramble something with no help in a matter of I gave it to you for five seconds when you became emotionally associated to something or you have clarity of something be important your brain figure the whole thing out that’s what the value of outcomes are that pretty powerful now how many could have gotten here come on how many could have got Albuquerque here if I did this way you can write down the letters say hi because it be true differently so who else got it though this way that’s more than what yes how did you junk it I mean it you kill Crowley you be the youth quelle crowd so crowd crab so she chunked in how many times three times and she chunked it auditorally instead of visually how many see that by the way do you see a pattern both these people have succeeded chunked at three times somebody else I sort of started off by just doing what they still do back there did which is just sorta like one at a time I sort of put EU bql and then just the growl sort of seem to work so provisions through that down so you still chunks – I mean she still did chunking in threes is most common for most people someone share this with the other day chunking a chunk like this 1 2 3 many when you get beyond 3 for most people as many so 3 is usually and if you try to chunk it as 1 unless you have the reference for Albuquerque you are in bad shape who did not get who did terribly honestly because he did terribly is nothing wrong with you it’s just that your strategy for chunking with not effective so sir how did you try to chunk it I tried to chunk it EUV QE l – all in one no I tried to do it in three but the in my language rules you always follows q and so high I got all confused about halfway through it okay so what happened is he tried to chunk it with three but he let his belief systems he calls his rules determined that this couldn’t be and that fried his brain so what you have to understand is if you’re going to get a job done if you’re going to take a dream and turn to reality you’re going to have to chunk it into a bite-sized not so small your overwhelming can’t remember it and not so big that you’re overwhelmed and so what open is is a visual chunking system I’ll give you one more let’s see what you’ve learned I’ll give you one more example real quick here are you ready this one’s easy ready put your pens down I want you to remember this in your head this is a chunking thing here we go how many got it let me see your hands okay how many did not get it okay those who got it raise your hands tell me how you chunked it yes ma’am I read it out loud to myself I said that says Tara burry me Tara Farini three syllables three chunks she is auditory two returns give her ham nice job oh come on give her a real hand who else got it ma’am how’d you do it I’m in language so I tend to look for the word that I know in any of the languages I’ve studied in this case the ER ru is like Earth and I kept it in my mind and the farini’s in front like it’s a mountain so the point is the ideal chunking system is three if you have no reference if you have a reference for something you can chunk it in a larger chunk for example driving your car your stick shift now is one chunk for most of you in the beginning it would’ve been useful if you go to sit okay there’s a thing to do with my feet the things I do with my eyes things I do with my hands put happens for most people’s ago I’m gonna do it put this layer to this to this they have no chunking system in the very beginning so they’re overwhelmed but very quickly unconsciously your brain begins to chunk three things and eventually when you’re familiar enough it becomes one thing it’s like it’ll all come together in your hand and you’ll be you’ll do things no one else can do memory foam so when I did with the human brain is chunk entire psychology of what makes a human being do what they do so that’s what you cannot do with your life as well – this process [Music]

68 thoughts on “Tony Robbins: Control Your THINKING (Tony Robbins motivation)

  1. Tony Robbins: Control Your THINKING (Tony Robbins motivation)
    The quality of your life is largely determined by the quality of the mental states you live in day to day – states like love, anger, happiness, fear and excitement. There are two main ways to control your state of mind. Either by controlling the way you use your physical body, or by controlling your focus of attention and the way you interpret it. What happens in your life does not determine how you feel. How you feel is only the result of how you are using your own mind and body at any moment.

    No matter what happens in your life, you are in control of your own state of mind. Make sure to use that ability to put yourself in a state that is appropriate for what you want to achieve. In most cases, would it not be nice to be in a highly positive mood most of the time? People in our society often turn to external means such as food, alcohol, cigarettes or drugs to elevate their mood, but with the techniques you are about to learn you will not have to depend on anything outside of yourself to change the way you feel.
    The only things we are going to have feelings about are the things we focus on, and we can only focus on one thing at a time. You can control what you are focusing on by what you are picturing in your mind, saying to yourself and paying attention to. This gives an almost unlimited number of choices. You can focus on past experiences, future expectations, the present moment, your self-talk or even your own imagination.

    Every one of us right now could get into a state of absolute joy, by thinking of all the great things in life, just as we could have everything and still be unhappy if we always focus on something negative. If you find someone who is incredibly happy, the reason is probably that they focus continuously on what makes them happy. You can experience this too by focusing continuously on what you want, what you have got and what is great about every situation, and as a result you will feel incredible. You will start to enjoy life much more, because you will be focusing on the most positive aspects. In addition, you will increase those positive things because you always get more of what you focus on in life.
    Tony Robbins
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  2. So, my question is this:

    For people who want to be successful regarding their career in loving what they do, but also making great money…what's people's takes on situations where people have jobs or careers that fulfill them as people but don't pay all that well? Many jobs out there just won't make you into a rich person, and if you're striving for fiscal wealth as well, does this mean that you can't really be truly satisfied with both career and income?

  3. This should be called "let Tony control your thinking". This is all BULLSHIT–same as Scientology or those fake TV evangelists healing those fake actors in wheelchairs. People pay $2980 a seat for his bullshit seminars……

  4. Thank you L.O.A.C. Tony Robbins you're awesome. I listen to different videos daily and this absolutely has changed the way I think.

  5. Awesome video can someone clarify to me what chunking means! Did I understand this correct from tony, he is saying how to break down a problem into simpler means and achieve small success instead of trying to attack a goal by it's whole.

  6. People need to keep an open mind. It's obviously an outdoor event. If you were focused on what Tony is saying you wouldn't hear the background noises except the really loud ones.

  7. Tony, you are so awesome! Thank you for your amazing contributions to helping me live my best life! I appreciate you so much!

  8. Can you make a place where we can download the mp3 version of this? I want to listen while doing my things. Thanks!!

  9. This sounds like parts of an infomercial put together with annoying nature sounds. Nothing against Tony, he rules.

  10. A great talk on focusing on what you want with beautiful nature sounds in the background, and these sheeple weak minds can't stop complaining about the nice background sounds… does anyone else see the irony? Lol

  11. Kanye west said that when he was feeling suicidal, Tony Robbins was called to his house to help him. And one method Tony had Kanye do was the warrior pose (I'm assuming he's talking about yoga), and had Kanye scream while doing it. What is the purpose of this technique? Anyone ever heard of this?

  12. We are focusing on the big thing in life like focusing on what matters and yet people are commenting on insignificant background noises….

  13. Coming from the guy who couldn't stand by his own conviction when pressured. Keep your advice for the sheep.

  14. What’s up with back ground sounds. Did I just hear someone dive off a diving board into a pool? Whom ever did the over lay… why?

  15. Thank you for you inspiration – it helps a lot – not there where I like to be now but daily working on it 👍🏻👍🏻

  16. I don't normally complain… But was anyone else distracted by all the background noise? That was just way too much. I didn't even make 7 minutes and I had to quit listening LOL

  17. A great talk (or a compliation of talks, rather). I've learned a lot. But while I listened to all of it and often stopped and relistened several times, I still don't understand what OPA means/is (and definitely not how it is spelled). Can anyone explain it to me? Is it an abbreviation? If so, what does it stand for? Also, the music/sounds was distracting. Often did not fit the tone of Tony's message, and is sometimes louder than what he says.

  18. Some people focus much easier than others. My mind is on hyper drive all the time, and the only way i'm able to focus it is by avoiding technology and those stimuli. My friend on the other hand plays video games all day and his focus stays sharp some how.

  19. Its crazy how I've had conversations ( in parts ) with different people about these same topics 💯 it makes me happy to know I'm not crazy 💯 lol

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