Seeing this scene with Don’s childhood
home viewers of any age might be inspired to forgive their own parents
for not being able to totally overcome the impact of their pasts, but somehow
most kids tend to turn out all right anyway. The baby boomers are not alright! Just look at Trump, our parents, and the customers that ask to see the manager.
But in all seriousness I love The Take and their videos about Mad Men, especially
the one about Betty Draper. However Sally’s video, I felt, lacked a few
things so that’s what this video is going to be about, how kids like Sally
did not turn out as happy as Mad Men or The Take may want you to believe. Before
I continue I just want to say that there are two types of baby boomers the ones
that were teens in the 60s and the ones that were teens in the 70s. For the
purpose of this video I’m only going to be talking about the teens of the 70s, as
Sally and the other examples that I’m going to use were part of this
demographic. The video leaves out a lot of important factors when talking about
baby boomers, but that’s be expected as the video was only a character study of
Sally Draper, but in reality only the rich white baby boomers like her are the
ones that are doing well. If you are born into wealth, as Mad Men shows, you are
more likely to stay with that wealth for life.
Sally, though born to Don who’s kind of a nobody, does have a stepfather named
Henry who’s high up in politics, rich, well-connected, and is also the daughter
of Betty, who was also very well educated and well bred, so it’s more than likely
that Sally will be rich and wealthy for the rest of her life. So yes she gets a
happy ending, but we never really know what will become of her future. It really
feels like Sally’s story is just beginning. Yes at the end of the series
she’s validated by her mom and becomes a very capable and loving sister… Betty and
the show validates Sally for being who she is she’s often more mature than
Betty and we see her taking care of Bobby and little Jean.
However The Take says that when Sally tells off Glenn when for joining the war she’s
being “socially conscious”… Think of her reaction after her childhood friend
Glenn announces he’s joining the army. Have fun
at Playland, just remember those kids are the same age as ones you’re going to be
murdering in Vietnam! However to me she was just trying to get back at him
because he hurt her. This reminds me of season 7 episode 7 Waterloo where Sally
pretends to not think that the moon landing is cool just to fit in. It’s such
a waste of money. You don’t really think that do you? I don’t doubt that Sally
may have liberal tendencies, but I think that’s just in spite of her Republican
upbringing. I think that her “social consciousness” won’t really go anywhere
and actually reflects a bigger boomer problem. Most white cis boomers were
kind of done with the social movements of the 60s and 70s because they thought
they ended racism. Their wokeness was a phase, which is why a lot of boomers say
their children will grow up to be more conservative like they did. This Gallup
poll from 2014 shows that boomers are more likely to be conservative.
The data suggests that generational replacement may be a cause of this
change as those now entering adulthood are about as likely to identify as
liberal as conservatives, while at the same time the older Americans who passed
on are much more likely to be conservative. And in 2016 most older
people voted for Trump. Trump had an advantage among 50 to 64 year old voters
and those 65 and older. However it’s important to note that generations are
arbitrary and don’t really mean anything in the grand scheme of things. You can be
older and be liberal and you can be younger and be conservative, or at least
pretend to for money… But it is true that most boomers don’t want to confront
their privileged position in history. The author of A Generation of Sociopaths: How
The Baby Boomers Betrayed America by Bruce Gibney said in a Vox interview, “I
think the major factor is that the boomers grew up in a time of
uninterrupted prosperity and so they simply took it for granted.”
Basically they thought that they won the civil rights movement
when in reality the fight was just beginning. The Take later says that Sally
had to grow up quickly because of the amount of violence she was exposed to on
TV. Social turmoil doesn’t allow her to be sheltered from much. She sees the
self-immolation of a buddhist monk this scene sums up how Sally’s generation was
exposed to these realities very young there was no safe space no way of tuning
out the darkness in the world. And as a result sally has no illusions about how
things really are. However she also saw her dad having sex
with another woman and Marie giving Roger a blowjob, and what’s weird to me
is that the take kind of frames this in a positive light.
We viewers may be seduced by the polished facade that Don and Betty
presents to the world but Sally isn’t buying it. They say that though her
innocence was taken from her it was worth it because it made her a stronger
more independent person. She sees her parents for exactly what they are and
she calls them on it. Anyone who pays attention to either of you and they
always do, you just ooze everywhere. And this certainly is important in the plot as Sally needs
to become the caregiver for her two younger brothers after her mom passes
away, but I definitely wouldn’t frame these events as positive or something
that she needed to go through to make her stronger. The Take later says that
Sally is more likely to become a helicopter parent and not an absent
parent like her parents were and that she won’t make the same mistakes as her
mom and dad. After all baby boomers are the generation first associated with
helicopter parenting which makes sense if you grew up with folks like the
Draper’s. Seeing this scene with Don’s childhood home, viewers of any age might
be inspired to forgive their own parents for not being able to totally overcome
the impact of their pasts, but somehow most kids tend to turn out alright
anyway. Though The Take is right in saying that
helicopter parenting did really take off with the boomers, I don’t think that it’s
such a great alternative to the absent parenting of Betty and Don. In fact, I
think a lot of baby boomers tend to internalize their trauma and then
project it on to their kids. So let’s look at other boomer characters to see what kind of future parent Sally Draper would be. In Lady Bird Marion isn’t a
helicopter parent, but she is still very controlling and a perfectionist. I’m
sorry I’m not perfect. No one’s asking you to be perfect just considerate would do. Christine you can’t leave your room like this! I didn’t! None of
these things will put away right. They are nice Christine. Now. Didn’t
you ever go to sleep with putting all your clothes away perfectly like even
once and don’t you wish your mom hadn’t gotten angry. My mother was an abusive
alcoholic. She also shields Lady Bird from a lot of
the harshness of the world which is something that Betty would never do.
Marion hides the fact that her husband has depression and she tries her best to
shield Lady Bird from their financial struggles. yYour dad and I will barely be
able to afford in-state tuition. There are loans. Your brother, your very smart brother,
he can’t even find a job. He and Shelley work! They have a bag at the grocery
store that is not a career and they went to Berkeley! Your father’s company is
laying off people right and left! Did you even know that? No of course you don’t because
you don’t think about anybody but yourself. Guys I’m just popping on while
I’m editing it’s not that Marion shields Lady Bird from their financial
realities and their financial struggle it’s more that Marion pretends or denies
Lady Bird other options for college besides in state because she’s afraid of
losing her, because her identity is so tied up in her daughter that her going
to the East Coast is unthinkable even though there are options to get her
there and that’s really what I wanted to say, not that
and shields Lady Bird from their financial struggle because she doesn’t,
it’s more of that Marion doesn’t even want to let Lady Bird think that she
could go out of state because Marion is so afraid of losing her and she’s so
insecure by her parenting, she’s so insecure about being a mother, that’s
really what I was trying to say. She also doesn’t like to share details about her
own upbringing and is very blunt when talking about it, showing that boomers
aren’t necessarily as open or as friendly as their predecessors. In A Bad
Mom’s Christmas, the second movie in the Bad Moms franchise, Amy and her mother
Ruth have an equally strained relationship.
Ruth like Marion is a perfectionist and only wants to do things her way.
Ruth comes to town ignores all of her daughter’s wishes and instead wants to
throw a huge elaborate Christmas party in order to show the world how much she
loves her daughter and her grandkids, but to Amy this is like a slap in the face,
as if she’s not a good enough mom for not putting in the same amount of effort
that Ruth is. With the help of Amy’s father Amy realizes why Ruth is the way
she is and that is because Ruth’s own mother never loved her. Hey guys it’s me
again the audio from Bad Moms isn’t working so because there’s no audio I’m
going to just read the script. I think it’s really important so just bear with
me and thanks for understanding. So that’s why Ruth needs to show off in
order to validate her family and validate her parenting and validate
herself. So in the end Amy forgives Ruth and Ruth apologizes, so maybe this is
just a mom and daughter thing. As much as we don’t want to become our parents we
become them anyway. Though Lady Bird and Bad Moms 2 both have happy endings, they
both show that helicopter parenting is not the way to go.
The Take frames helicopter parenting as being a step up from being an absent
parent, but I don’t think it is. A red flag of helicopter parenting as seen
from moms like Ruth and Marion is that your kids become your identity and this
is something that Betty and Don never had a problem with. Betty has all the
help she needs and does whatever she wants even with the kids in the house.
She might have a fever…Stop pinching me! *door slam* and we don’t even know that Don has kids until the very end of the first episode. Their kids have no bearing on their life
whatsoever, unlike parents like Marion and Ruth who have their identities so tied
up and that of their kids that they barely have an identity outside the
lives of their daughters. They’re so worried about if they’re doing the right thing but they don’t even take the time to
actually listen to their kids wants and needs. Helicopter parents see their
children as extensions of themselves as mini – mes and this is incredibly damaging
because no kid will ever live up to their parents expectations, and that’s
what gives us this very memorable line from Lady Bird. I wish that you liked me. Of course I love you. Yeah, but do you like me? I want you to be the very best version
of yourself that you can be. What if this is the best version? Another negative
aspect of helicopter parenting is not giving your kids privacy or independence
and basically seeing them as property. Get out of my room! M-m-my door?! Mom! Do you see what happened to my- Though this idea of “my house my rules” is
a very important tenant in the Draper household, I doubt that Betty would ever
take Sally’s door away as she wants to see as little of her as possible. Some
might even say raised by TVs. Go watch TV or something. Go watch TV. Can I go
watch Shirley Temple’s storybook? Yes. She doesn’t believe me that I’m allowed to
watch as much TV as I want because it’s the summer. Your mother lets you do that? So let’s talk about how race and class
fit in with helicopter parenting as Sally and Mad Men only really give us a
glimpse into what it’s like to be rich and white. Basically you can’t be a
helicopter parent if you’re not rich. How are you supposed to send your kid to
piano lessons, horseback riding lessons, and soccer games without a bunch of help
and a bunch of money? Though I would consider Marion from Lady Bird a
helicopter parent, she is poor and therefore she cannot be watching
Lady Bird’s every move as she has a full-time job.
The film also takes place in the early 2000s when free-range parenting was
still a thing. On the other hand, Sally like Ruth from Bad Moms, will never be
and are never strapped for cash. Therefore I’m sure that Sally would grow
up to be more of a Ruth and be a very successful helicopter parent. Other baby
boomer parents like Lori Loughlin and Felicity Huffman went so far in their
helicopter parenting as to bribe their child’s way into elite universities
and then end up in court for it, but not jail. Most parents can’t afford to bribe
their kids way into an elite university, but a lot of parents do spend money time
and effort trying to get their kids a better future. Immaculate heart is
already a luxury. You mean Immaculate fart. You wanted that not me. Miguel saw someone knifed in front of him at sac high! Is that what you want? The majority of
parents who can’t afford to enrich their child with extracurriculars are single
parents, especially single moms and single parents of color, who are
constantly shamed for not being able to provide for their children. This is
perfectly exemplified in the case of Tanya McDowell who recently went to jail
for trying to send her child to a better school district, as well as Kelly
Williams-Bolar, who was sentenced to three years of probation in 2011 for
doing the same thing. In all, helicopter parenting is not
the solution for absent parenting. Baby boomers fucked up the economy and still
can’t own up for all of the legislation that they created that hurt marginalized
groups for decades, but on a small family scale, all is not lost for Sally and the
Boomers. And this is where the Joy Luck Club comes in I would argue that
immigrant parents were the first helicopter parents. This was because
immigrant communities needed to stick together and use community surveillance
in order to keep each other safe, but these small close-knit communities also
fostered an interesting amount of competition that seems very similar to
how helicopter parents parent. And this is because for many immigrants their
children are extensions of themselves and represent all of their hopes and
dreams as The Joy Luck Club opening so eloquently puts it. For a long time now
the woman had wanted to give her daughter the single swan feather and
tell her this feather may look worthless but it comes from afar and carries with
it all my good intentions. And this can be perfectly illustrated in Waverly and
Lindos relationship. Though Lindo isn’t a boomer she sure parents like one. Waverly Jong, chess champion. I wish you
wouldn’t do that, telling everyone I’m their daughter. What you mean? You’re so
ashamed to be with your mother? It isn’t that. It’s just that it’s so embarrasing.
What? Embarrased to be my daughter? That’s not what I said. Then
what you say? Look at me! Why do you have to use me to show off? If you want to show off, then
why don’t you learn to play chess? This of course leads to a huge rupture in
their relationship, but after Waverly becomes an adult she’s finally
able to voice her frustrations to her mother. You don’t know the power you have over me. One word from you, one look… and I’m four years old again crying myself to sleep. After this their relationship
gets a little better, but not perfect and that’s okay.
Waverly, the real boomer in their, relationship raises her daughter
Shoshana in the exact opposite way that Lindo parented her, showing that there’s
still hope for boomer parents, which means that there’s still hope for Sally.
In fact, Waverly describes her daughter who she was originally going to
abort as a miracle. Because of Waverly’s immigrant upbringing she needed to prove
herself as different from her mother and by doing so she becomes a better parent.
So I think that Sally could have a similar trajectory especially since she
knows about Don’s upbringing. So I still think there’s hope for boomers and their kids. I don’t think that Sally will grow up to
be a horrible person and I don’t think that all boomers are bad people, but in
order for boomers to be alright, we the kids of boomers, need to talk to them. To
tell them how we feel and make them listen to us for a change. Alright guys
that’s it for the video. Thanks so much for watching and a huge thanks to all of my
patrons for supporting the channel! I really had a fun time making this one.
This is probably one of my favorite videos. I love Mad Men so much and I
might even make an extended Mad Men video, but for now this is it. Let me know
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