How to Deal with Anger – Teal Swan-
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Hello everyone. Today we’re going to talk about anger. Anger is by far one of the most feared emotional states that we experience. Anger is discouraged socially both for its aggressive and its passive forms. Most especially because because of the fact that anger is notorious for creating social conflict, but our resistance and fear of anger only makes that anger persist. What is anger? Anger is an emotional response that rises in response to the option that you have been threatened, think about that for a minute. Anger always comes as a result of feeling threatened that means anger comes in response to the perceived infliction of pain, injury or damage either done or not yet done to you. If we are angry our survival mechanism has been triggered. Remember that I don’t mean just physical survival mechanism, I also mean emotional survival mechanism and mental survival mechanism. This emotion is partly responsible for the fight or flight response. Anger is an evasion. It is an impulse for self preservation. anger is the emotion response that results from being threatened into a state of fear usually about pain that has been inflicted on you or that you think is going to come anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively and psychologically when a person makes a conscious choice to take action to immediately stop the threat of an outside force, anger distances you from threat. This is the real reason why anger hurts people. It puts distance between yourself and them. It is opposing oneness and love. It is the of social cohesion. It separates us. If we perceive a threat it means that we feel powerless, it means that we feel like have no control over something that happened or something that is happening. There is no lower vibration on the planet than powerlessness and from a place of powerlessness, you’re a match to incredibly low vibrational experiences including ones that could cause a death. Because of this, the soul has actually created it’s own self preservation instinct. It’s important for the sake of expansion for us to live long enough to use the physical dimension to expand. As a result, anger was created to keep you out of the vibration of the emotions that make you a match to circumstances where it would be a threat to your survival. The self preservation instinct on the emotional level comes in the form of what I call a cover emotion. Emotional states like hatred and anger are cover emotions, they are time to cover the vibration that exists right below it, to keep you from experiencing the lower vibrational emotion Anger is an emotion that covers hurt and fear, because fear and hurt are powerless states. It covers them so that we do not stand those vibrations, and become a match to the many survival risk experiences that are of vibration match to us, when we are in the state of powerlessness. Obviously anger feels better than powerless states like fear, and like hurt, but what about people who say that anger makes them feel worse or vibrational states, like depression, or like fear, or like a guilt. If that’s the case with you, then what happens is that you’re raised in a social group, that believed that anger was so bad that it made you a bad person. You’ve perceived that anger hurts people and that hurting people issue about person, and the bad people do not receive love it’s a hold over from the punishment and rewards file parenting people are relationally dependent so love equal survival as a result every time you feel angry, subconsciously you will find a flight mechanism is triggered. You begin to feel powerless because you core belief is that you will be abandoned or hurt or left alone if you are angry. In other words anger has become a trigger in and in itself for you. This is especially true if you have been raised in a religious environment. All of the various world religions are scattered even the core scriptures with warnings about the personal and spiritual implications of anger. But this is not the dark ages any more. Most of us are not living in caves and stoning our lives and sacrificing goats to the gods, so let’s catch up with the times. Anger is not wrong, anger is not bad, anger is not evil, anger has been critical to our survival, anger pulls you out of powerlessness and the pain of being hurt and being afraid. This is why people say that anger can be used to this fuel and makes dangerous feel smaller and confident seem higher and there is a huge burst of energy. That means we are taking our power back to motivating. Anger means we think we have a choice to make and choice is freedom. This is why anger shows up and the orbit of frontal poor checks of the brain during your imaging studies. Now as I said before anger is a number one enemy in a society. This is a big problem in a universe like this, but is governed by the law of attraction. Because people who do not allow themselves to experience anger, are in fact caught in lower vibrational states than anger. What does that mean in a universe governed by the law of attraction? It means that the people who do not experience anger are themselves experience anger I should say. They will match two experiences that match lower vibrational states than anger. Here is what I mean, when you’re angry you’re amassed to things like fender benders and altercation and frustration popping up all over the place when you’re in a state of powerlessness you’re matched much lower in vibration things, things like tragedies, loosing loved ones, being victimized therefore a person who’s in a state of anger is actually in a higher frequency than a person who doesn’t let themselves experience their anger. It’s also very serious social business to resist anger. The people who aren’t allowed to express anger, the people whose anger is invalidated and disapproved of. They’re discouraged out of anger back into lower vibrational states like powerlessness, like revenge. The energy of those emotional states keeps building until they’ve no choice to act out to save themselves from those emotional states. This is when the world experiences things like murder, a person who’s able to allow themselves to approve of and flow through their is a person who doesn’t have to take action on their feelings to feel better, they don’t end up taking their anger out on other people. We spoke earlier about anger as a self preservation instinct, obviously looking at anger through that lens it’s easy to see just how much anger has to do with boundaries. If you’re angry, no exception to the rule that always means that your being is letting you know that your boundaries either has been violated or are about to be violated. So what does that mean if you’re angry at yourself? It means that your being is telling you that you’re violating your own boundaries or have violated your own boundaries, you’ve given yourself reason to fear yourself and not trust yourself. If you hate yourself your emotions are telling you that you have hurt yourself. You pensive the threat as being you. I cannot go further without saying that if you are a chronically angry person, it is not have personality defect. You have every reason to feel the way you feel. It means, there is an omnipresent threat in your life. And it’s about time you take a look at your life and figure out what that on the present threat is. If you are chronically angry, you have been viewing yourself in your life in a way that makes you feel powerless. So you pull yourself back to anger and you keep doing this over and over again. Sliding state of powerlessness, pulling yourself back to anger, sliding down into powerlessness, pulling yourself back to anger. It’s essentially a vibrational holding pattern. What is it that is making you feel so powerless? People who feel powerless are angry people. People who are afraid or angry people. People. But self preservation is more than just survival. It also has to do with our integrity and intactness as a person. People who are conditionally loved. While one aspect of themselves is disapproved off while the other aspect of themselves are approved of, they fracture, they split, they cannot stay whole. The totality of who they are is in essence rejected. And because of this, that person is also angry. This is the real reason why teenagers are so angry. We need to stop using the cop up that teenagers are just angrier because of hormones, this is great ABF teals are angry because of the increase in social pressure, they have threats to their integrity coming at them from all sides, they’re being pressured to violate their boundaries by parents, by teachers and by peers every single day. The things that were acceptable in them as children are no longer acceptable. They must become only what is acceptable to society now and you had better expect that will result in rebellion, but what is that rebellion really about? Is the rebellion to being told that the totality of who they’re is unlovable and that they must dissociate themselves from the part of themselves that is no longer okay. We’re asking them to conform to what we want from them and to make as feel good and proud even at the cost of their own happiness, at the same time as telling them they must become independent and autonomous. It’s crazy making stuff. Conformity breaks a persons heart, we’re breaking our children’s heart we’re making them powerless and blaming it on hormones, and punishing them for their rebellion. If you are angry, that is right for you to feel, nothing whatsover has gone wrong with you, it’s just that you may not know why you feel as angry as you feel, but I can assure you that once you do find out why you’re so angry, you will see that there is a valid reason why you feel that way. In general, it’s a good rule of thumb to not take action on our negative emotional states, so when you’re angry, it’s not a good idea to go punch a wall or get into a fight, or kill someone, but we also can’t deny suppress or disapprove of our anger because that anger will never go away, instead it will result in an explosion or a physical ailment. We don’t have to suppress or deny anger, we also do not have to take action of our anger. So what exactly is it that we should do about our anger? Number one, don’t distract yourself from your anger. This is a popular tip that people will tell you when your anger is distract yourself from it. I completely disagree, what we have to do is to recognize our anger and I made a search, I’m angry! Two, we have to care that we feel angry by seeing our anger as valid and as important. We should never seek to control our anger, we should seek to take care of our anger as if it were a crying child. We’ve to acknowledge and validate our anger in a way that we have every right to feel the way we feel, we have to understand the real reason why we are angry, understanding anger is really very easy and simple but it requires bravely because the requires we are willing to feel vulnerable and admit to that vulnerability, if we feel angrly its because we feel as if we have been threatened so there are a few questions which we have have to ask ourselves when we feel angry to get to the root of that anger, we need to ask ourselves, what do I feel so threatened by? Once we figure out it is that we feel threatened by we need to ask ourselves, why do I feel so threatened? By that thing and once we have answered those questions we need to ask ourselves the three most important things we can relative to anger. The first is what about that hurt you so bad? The second is, what am I really afraid of in this situation? And the third is what need do I have in this situation that is not getting met? If we feel threatened, we feel vulnerable, the question is to what? For example I might be super angry that my boss promoted the guy who sits next to me in my office, but when I look for the vulnerable root of the anger I might find that it hurt me because it made me feel like I’m not good enough and made me afraid that I’m going to be working at the same level not succeeding or advancing for the rest of my life. Listen to your anger listen to what it’s telling you about what’s wrong with your life and what you need to do or change in order to create a life that feels better. You will find that just the awareness of the pain that is hiding underneath the anger takes the edge off of that anger. You are also also going to be dealing with the real word of the anger and instead of just the surface symptoms which is the anger itself, also the willingness to consciously to feel the emotions of anger and to go into the direction of vulnerability of the heart and of the fear, you will be state of allowing, anger is a state of resistance and so anger cannot survive in that atmosphere of allowing. Three, we need to be unconditionally present in that whenever a motion arises as a result of this previous steps, whether it is anger, or fear or hurt or something else we have to be unconditionally with those emotions and sync into them, we must integrate the feeling for anyone who wants to understand this process refer to my video titled how to heal the emotional body and once you have done that, here are some other techniques to try. Four, I’m not one for breathing tactics, even though their are many people who think it is one of the best ways to approach our anger. To me it feels a little bit like trying ship away the glacier with a grapefruit spoon. But there’s one particular breathing technique that seems to calm the hyper arousal within the brain every single time. To do this you want to breath in deeply for the count of four and you want to breathe out for the count of eight. If you want to, you can add a holding of your breath to the count of six in between the in breath and the out breath. You want to do this 12 times before you resume your breathing naturally. Five, put your pen to paper, write your anger down. Anger is a state of confusion for those of you who have really experienced it you know exactly what I mean. Putting a pen to paper and writing down, expressing your anger completely helps you to get clear about your anger. Writing helps your mind and emotions unite. Also if you fully express the anger you will find that you can access the hurt and fear underneath. Much like scooping oil off the top of water to get to the water Six, catharsis, there’s a raging debate about whether it’s actually a good idea to express and channel anger, and they doesn’t necessarily need to be expressed in order not to be suppressed. As long as you’re addressing the emotions that exist underneath the anger the hurt and the fear. Many of the studies involving catharsis and anger are not favourable in the direction of catharsis, but they show is by expressing or channelling your anger, it actually increases or maintains your state of hyperarouselent it doesn’t make it any better. In fact you were more aggressive than before. But I think that’s because these studies on cothasis on its own without the addition of cognitive psychotherapy techniques, catharsis is not healing unless it’s done in atendome with addressing the real cause of the negative emotion. And indeed when we do address the really cause for the negative emotion we do not feel the need for catharsis. People often channel their anger to avoid their n=anger, and the hurt beneath their under. For example, I could destruct myself from my anger by exercising or playing a violent video game or punching a wall or walking towards a girl or something of the sought. This kind of channeling can be very damaging because it never allows us to that is the real cause of hunger and so healing is unavailable to us, is just a way of temporarily sedating the feeling. I have realized energy but I have done nothing to resolve the underlying problems that are causing my anger, people who are addicted to get thirsty at emotional states like anger are using to avoid directly dealing with the feeling of hurt, and fear underneath the hunger, to truly improve negative emotion state, the underline cause of emotion state, the underline cause of the emotion state must be addressed. So they don’t even bother with catharsis unless you planed to also address the underlying cause of your anger and create cognitive change. Catharsis in another itself does nothing for long term resolution of any emotional state, but it can’t be awesome recruitment, and we cant do awful ways, which are turn or avoiding the painful emotion state, one example is hurt, when you create hurt from angry place, that it actually has the potential to pull other people who are in lower vibration state of anger into the higher vibration state of anger. I am quite convinced that I may not have not survived my teen years were it not for angry bands like limp biscuits and tool. Some popular ways to channel anger is to scream into a pillow, to go running, to go to a place where there’s no risk of harming anything else and throw rocks to make angry art, to buy second hand plates or cups and smash them in a place in a way where you and others won’t be harmed, punching a punching bag maybe you can wrestle with the person who is willing, you can talk, you can dance, you can stretch and move your body in the ways that realize energy or you can cry. Remember that you are looking for release, when you are counting your muscles or restraining your behavior you are trying to control anger and this only makes the situation worse don’t distract this energy, anger wants to move, it wants to flow, it wants relief, so let the energy flow. When you channel anger make channeling the anger your only goal, don’t channel your anger towards a goal. Think of it almost like relieving yourself clean of the poison of the hided bathing desperation of that feeling. Only you can know based on how you feel if your channeling anger so as to avoid the anger and distract yourself from it, or whether here deliberately letting anger flow somewhere in a cathartic way. My observation is the catharsis works particularly well for people who have been quietly inhibited or who inhibit themselves. Only you will be able to tell if catharsis does in fact work for you with regards to anger, and we must remember that if we change our underlying perception, the emotional state of anger will not even be there any more so there will be no need to express it. One popular idea is that we can and turn our anger into motivation. I don’t actually like this idea so much. I’m not really a fun of the idea of turning anger into motivation, because anger is in fact a state of resistance it is a state of resistance to lower vibrational states. Resistance spouse our judgement in situation, we tent to make really terrible choices in space of pain if we are pushing forward from space of anger a forward movement is motivated by insecurity, fear and pain, obviously with that kind vibrational rule the result will not be great. You are just using the rush about anger so you run up string towards our goals, we need to act inspiration which is the result of positive emotional states. Constructive action is not actually a vibrational match to the state of anger. It could be that something that angers us makes us aware of a really good idea and that idea case us to feel inspired, but in that case we’re not actually acting from anger, we’re acting from inspiration. We have in fact moved up the vibrational scale. By channeling anger itself into constructive action as a contradiction terms. Develop empathy and compassion. Try to find similarities between your and the person who’s making you angry. Try to understand them completely. Most especially, try to understand the fear and the pain that exist whatever they’re doing to make you so angry. Empathy and compassion cuts the legs from underneath anger completely, but it can not be faked. Another right thing to do is to become aware of your projections. To explore the concept of projection further you can look at my YouTube video titled projection. Eight music. Music is pure vibration, by being around music we are to entrain with the frequency of it. We can seriously use this to our advantage. If we’re having trouble feeling our anger because we’ve made an enemy of anger, we can play angry music. That gives us permission to let that anger move through us if you feel like you’re ready to move past anger, listen to music that makes you feel empowered and inspired. This kind of music counteracts the powerlessness and fear and hurt Nine, seek out water. It doesn’t matter what form that water is in. It could be an ice cube, it could be a lake or an ocean, or a shower or a bath, or even a drip out of a facet. Think about anger, anger is like an internal fire, that’s what it feels like. What is the antidote to fire? Obviously it is water, and water holds one of the closest vibrations to source energy itself, it purifies us, it balances us, and it neutralizes negative energies. So find water in a whatever way it is calling to you. Ten, pick something that feels better to focus on, something that makes you feel safe or empowered, because those are the opposite vibration states from the state of anger. This can be as simple as watching the Food Network Channel, writing down positive aspects about the situation you’re mad about or thinking about an aspect of your life that it’s actually going very well, something that makes you feel inspired and motivated or empowered. Negative emotion is the indication that you feel a deprivation of something that you need and want, so what is it that you need and want? We can use our acute awareness of what is unwanted to decide what is wanted and then to let ourselves unashamedly go in the direction of those particular things. Eleven, sometimes we need to learn that it is okay to express our emotion directly to other people, but we have to be clear about why exactly we are going to do that, what is it that I want out of expressing this anger to this person. What we may find is that we want validation, if we want validation its highly unlikely that we’re going to get that from a person that we are directing our anger at, but we may find that the reason we want to express our anger to other people is because we want to give ourselves the message that we are completely there for ourselves, we want to give ourselves a message that we have our own back. When this is the case it’s a very good idea to express you anger to other people if we have decided that our goal is to unify and become one with other people, that our boundaries are healthy enough that we do not need to exert them what we want to do is not stay silent we want to instead expose our under belly to people, who we’re angry at. That means so once we figure out the deep fear, and the deep pain that is underneath our anger we express that to the people we’re angry with, yes this requires as much bravery as it sounds like it requires, but you will be amazed at the results, this is the difference between swearing and someone who cheated on you and calling you names and saying you hate them and telling them that cheating on you made you feel bad about yourself unlike you’re not good enough, unlike you were as a child betrayed, let the other person now you’re needs especially what need is not being met in the circumstance as well, this makes it easy to find ways of getting your needs met in the circumstance. 12, it’s a good idea if you feel completely capable handling your anger to bring someone in to help you handle that anger, to help you process it. Make sure that whatever person you choose is experienced with anger. That means, make sure that they see anger is valid as not wrong. They have to approve of anger as an emotion in order to really adequately walk you through the emotion of anger. And if you’re having a really difficult time managing anger between yourself and another person, bring in a non biased third party. This can really help to advance your particular vibration, so you’re not stuck in a state of anger and you’re not stuck in vibrations that are lower than anger. There is a beauty to anger, there would be no anger without free will, and anger there is an acknowledgement of a choice and the best choice to make is to deal with the deep vulnerability that exists below anger itself, that anger is not bad and anger is not wrong. It is just a symptom which is telling you that something about your life is out of alignment and needs some more than care, an unconditional attention, have a good week.

100 thoughts on “How to Deal with Anger – Teal Swan-

  1. Thank you Teal for this generous and very helpful gift. Continue to Be an invaluable gift to humanity and beyond. <3<3<3…1/11/2018 (or 1/11/11)

  2. Took Notes! – How To Deal With Anger – Teal Swan:

    Anger is where your boundaries exist.

    Anger is saying: “This was a no for me and it happened anyway.”

    You can’t live into your personal truth with no access to anger. You have to go through it.

    Anger results in movement. You gotta use the energy of anger to take action.

    Anger is only a recovery emotion for a powerless state. You’re avoiding the powerlessness – you have to get to the anger first before you can go down. Anger shows you he way. Powerlessness says 'I can’t do anything about it’ and anger goes “you can’t do that forever”.

    When you feel angry:

    * Name it
    * See it as valid and important
    * Take care of it as a crying child
    * Affirm that it’s okay
    * Understanding it requires bravery
    * It’s about admitting to vulnerabilty
    * Anger is about feeling threatened
    * Ask yourself
    * What do I feel so threatened by
    * Why do I feel so threatened by that thing
    * What about that hurt me so bad
    * What am I really afraid of in this situation
    * What need do I have that’s not getting met in this situation
    * When we feel threatened, we feel vulnerable – the question is to what?
    * If your boss yells at you, its fear that you’re not going to progress maybe
    * Just the awareness of the pain hiding underneath the anger takes the edge off the anger
    * Willingness to consciously feel the emotions of anger and go into the vulnerability of the hurt and the fear
    * That is allowing – Anger is a state of resistance and cannot survive in that state
    * Be unconditionally present with whatever arises with these previous steps – sink into them
    * https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c3V_Gtfr_YA
    * Deep breathing technique:
    * In for count of 4
    * Out for a count of 8
    * Add a holding of your breath in between for count of 6
    * Do this 12 times before resuming natural breathing
    * Put pen to paper and write your anger down expressing your anger completely – helps you get clear about your anger
    * Writing helps mind and emotion unite
    * Catharsis?
    * Anger doesn’t need to be expressed in order to not be suppressed as long as you’re addressing the emotions underneath the anger – the hurt and the fear
    * You don’t need to channel your anger to something else like exercising or working towards a goal – you can release the energy, but you’re avoiding dealing with the feeling of hurt and fear
    * Catharsis is not healing unless it is done in tandem with addressing the real cause of the negative emotion
    * When you address the cause, you don’t feel the need for catharsis
    * Don’t bother with catharsis unless you also plan to address the underlying cause of your anger and create cognitive change
    * Catharsis doesn’t do anything for long term change
    * Can be done in healthy ways
    * Art – when you create art from angry place, it has the potential to pull other people who are in lower states than anger, to a higher place of anger
    * Running
    * Smashing plates and cups
    * Punching punching bags
    * Talk, dance, stretch
    * Cry
    * You’re looking for release
    * Don’t clench your muscles and obstruct the energy – it needs to flow and release
    * When you channel your anger, make that the goal, not channeling to achieve a goal
    * Only you know if you’re avoiding anger or releasing it
    * Only you know if it works for you
    * Turning anger into motivation?
    * Anger is a state of resistance, it clouds our judgement and intuition
    * We make terrible choices from this place of pain
    * We need to act on inspiration – the result of positive emotional states
    * Develop empathy and compassion
    * Try to find similarities between yourself and the person who’s making you angry
    * Try to understand them completely
    * Try to understand the fear and the pain that exists below whatever they’re doing to make you so angry
    * Use music
    * Music is pure vibration
    * By being around it, we’re forced to entrain with the frequency of it
    * If you’re having trouble feeling it – you can play angry music – it gives us permission to let that anger move through us
    * When you’re ready to move past it, listen to music that makes you feel empowered
    * Seek out water
    * Doesn’t matter what form – shower, ice, ocean, river, tap water lake
    * If anger feels like fire within, water is the antidote
    * It purifies us
    * It neutralizes negative energy
    * Pick something that feels better to focus on
    * Something that makes you feel safe and empowered
    * Writing down positive aspects, thinking about aspect of your life that’s going really well
    * Negative emotion is indication that you’re deprived of something you need and want – what is that?
    * What have you realized is unwanted? Knowing this can tell you what is wanted.
    * Sometimes it’s okay to express emotion directly to people
    * Be clear as to why you’re going to do this
    * If its for validation for example, not a good idea
    * Doing this can give ourselves the message that we’re completely there for ourselves, and that we have our own back
    * If this is the case, it’s a very good idea to express it
    * Once we figure out the deep pain and deep fear, we express that to the people we’re angry at
    * It requires bravery
    * It’s the difference between swearing at someone and telling them that what they did made you feel betrayed, etc.
    * Bring someone in to help you process your anger if you can’t do it yourself
    * Make sure that person is experienced with anger
    * Make sure that they see anger as valid and not wrong
    * They have to approve of anger as an emotion to help you work through the emotion
    * You can also bring in a non bias person between you and the person you’re angry with
    * There’s a beauty to anger
    * There would be no anger without free will
    * In anger, there’s an acknowledgment of choice – the best choice is to deal with the deep vulnerability that exists below anger
    * Its not bad and not wrong
    * It’s just a symptom telling you that something is out of alignment
    * It needs love and care and unconditional attention

  3. I wanna say two things. If you grew up with a critical and strict parent you will be told that you shouldn't hit your sister, that it is Wrong to throw your things across the room and I'm saying this because it would be installed in us from a very early age because then you will grow up suppressing anger. Think about it, some kid torments you at school, takes your book away from you and laughs at you after, when you go to hit back because what has happened is just wrong you then get punished by teachers because to hit another person is wrong and then the bully has more or less got away with it. Secondly, I feel that it's more women who have to bottle or surpress anger, because socially it is more acceptable for a man to get angry and people say when a man gets angry he is just angry, whereas if a woman is angry, she is out of control. Its a horrible misinterpretation between the two sexes. So women are more than likely to experience depression as a result of confining to the social norms of how a woman should be perceived

  4. I dont agree at all. Anger is always on behalf of the separate self, the resisting illusory one. Dissolving contractions and tensions in the body is the key for liberation.

  5. suuuuure, she talks about anger management when she gets all the attention just because she is a woman (pretty). Wanna see how she deals with it when no one is there.

  6. I was never an angry teen !!???? WTF ?? I was always sooo happy and laughing so much that I broke my ribs quite a few times.. I was naive and spent much time laughing at stuff. we had so much fun. spent much time outdoors in nature. no anger for me. as an adult I learned anger. I used to move on when a stumbling block or frustration came about. not all teens are angry.

  7. "Heated, buzzing, desperation, feeling of that anger"……TEAL, you are sooo symbolic of my 'Higher Self'…..I cannot express my absolute appreciation and gratitude that I feel to The Great Mystery that you exist!!! 😄💜❤

  8. I needed this today, mindfully tracing the root causes of your thoughts and feelings in each moment can be so exhausting, especially if you haven't done it enough, cause you could stumble on something like an abyss of failed expectations, I truly give you props Teal, I've been feeling all my survival mechanisms getting triggered lately and I've been doing my best to give them each the attention they deserve as they arise, though I still have much to learn about how to properly handle them, I know so many people, myself included who spent so much time relishing in being wounded and trying to see as something beautiful and unique without thinking it as something that could actually heal and change for the better, and I am so sick of not being healed and not giving all those things the attention they deserve, your knowledge is so vast and has already helped me alot, and even helped me out a deeper funk I have been in for years, in such a short amount of time it astounds me, and with real lasting good feelings, when I'm not in internal turmoil to figure things out lol, I don't even know how to thank you for what you have provided, but I want to say thank you none the less, and if you ever needed anything I would try to give it to you, on a side note limp biscuit and tool are totally awesome bands

  9. "The Law of Attraction" belief is a way to self protect as well. The world is scary. But it's just a belief. Good video though

  10. That statement about anger creating higher vibration is sick (as in cool). But can't those vibrations create disturbing vibrational shockwaves or attract similarly angry people towards you – in the dangerous way?

  11. This is why limp Bizkit is so critized because being angry are judged by society as bad and unworthy of love.

  12. Death and decay is powerlessness. Anger can save you in its separation. Our societies and institutions are too large for their own good. So you must separate and seek wisdom through anger, but not disgust. If you wish to harness anger for power you must see yourself as a sort of district attorney of the universe.

  13. I don't deal with anger well. When I get angry with someone I considered a good friend (like I'm going through now). I cut off all contact without telling that person why I'm angry with them. It's easier for me to cut them off then to explain to them why I am angry with them in the first place.

  14. I'm honestly SICK of understanding the rest of my family when they think ive submitted and they wont try to understand me. But they say they do, which I feel is just gaslighting… This is my whole family now and its out of control.. I can be crazy happy all the time but I'm still severley missunderstood and everytime I try to be emotionallyconnected in a way that gives me love they just call me crazy.. 🙁

  15. Min 25: it is so hard to express what is beneath it without getting manipulated into something that I don't want. My boundaries are just too loose

  16. I always felt it was too big of a feeling. It always made me afraid like I would become the Incredible Hulk :p Learning about the lower vibrations are critical. It seems to be by accepting emotions and setting the boundaries is the way to process all emotions and triggers. Thank you for this video 🙂

  17. I agree with everything she said. I used anger as my protection. As my Armor. Until I learned it did not protect me, it alienated me from myself and others. I started connecting to my heart and accessing my true emotions. This began my healing process. please watch my video on how to overcome anger by Lori Kayser Life Coach.

  18. Prior to discovering Teel’s great videos, I was an angry tennis player, but then said I had enough of being angry. I integrated her techniques for removing and replacing beliefs and i have seen the most profound improvement in my tennis, and life in general. This woman’s knowledge is astounding!

  19. Thank you so much. I'm crying because you are the first person that ever told me that my anger is valid. Thank you, you have helped me more than words can express. I'm ready to let go of my anger. ❤️

  20. Wow thank you! This helped me so much to understand my anger and ways to practice how to express it in a healthy way! 🙂

  21. Game changer video. What an absolute angel. One very very special beautiful insightful lady. Thank you for this. Made my day, week, month, year and hopefully life. X

  22. Watched this video a couple of years ago. Thought I was a chronically angry person with no way out of it. Then I took a look at my life and understood that I was violating my own boundaries over and over. I changed my way of viewing myself, learned to recognize my feelings and started to respect my boundaries. I haven't been angry for a year. Thanks for this video, Teal!

  23. After all the BS articles i've red on the subject, this video is gold! When everybody wants u to suppress your anger (including the so-called experts!), Teal is the only one i've encountered who's tackling this with such raw authenticity. Brilliant !

  24. This is by far one of the most transcending videos about innerstnding anger. I absolutely thank you and cheer you on wherever you are and all that you do 💓

  25. I don’t understand people who dislike this video. She said everything 100% true. She disolve the esence of anger on every single peace. I thought all my life that I am not aloud to express anger, bcs I am the “good” person, thats why I was beang depressed most of my life. Thank you Teal, you saved me

  26. Thank you so much, Teal Love, you. Just want to add a quick thought in there about using music for Anger, A lot of music is still in artificial Frequency of 440 Hz , standard concert pitch, a frequency design to cause stress in th human body. so be mindful of what music you listen to, alot of new music is now in 432 Hz a natural frequency.

  27. 3 things:

    1) thank you for this upload.​

    2) today I did a hard thing. I had a difficult conversation.​

    and my learning from that conversation can be summed up so perfectly in the following quote from ACIM:​

    (which just happens to be the very first thing I read when I got home after the conversation!)​

    "and so you learned that what seemed hardest was the easiest".​

    3) I have an impossible time with forgiveness.​

    I can never forgive others. I can never forgive myself.​

    so moving forward, ​

    I'll do my best to be just 10% more forgiving,​

    Madelaine

  28. A skewed explanation of anger. Anger can be used to empower oneself through love. Sounds contradictory, but the reality is that all emotions can either come from a space of either fear or love, including anger, including ‘powerlessness’ – which in its empowered state is better referred to as surrender. Misleading video.

  29. I feel better when I take the anger out on something or someone or myself. I hate the frustrating feeling inside as if a feather was fluttering inside you and it's so annoying, and it gets worse when you try to LET IT GO, it's as if its saying how dare YOU try to forget about this anger I'm going to make you feel frustrated inside even more

  30. I went for most of my life feeling low key depressed due to suppressing my emotions. I'm finally getting angry and feel better.

  31. what do i do if someone is angry at me? sometimes i fight back but it just gets worse and i get really angry too. if i don't want to deal with it i just go into my room and lock the door behind me, but then that person feels disrespected and i can still hear the shouting and hitting against the door. very rarely i manage to get it to a serious conversation that is not a fight but trying to understand each other. but that takes time and me being in a better mood than coming from school hungry and with a headache. i'm so done with it. i feel like i get nothing back if i try to help that person because that person never respects my emotional state either. i mean i know she feels awful but i just sometimes have no space for it, i have problems too.

  32. She must have used up her whole "stock photos of black folks looking upset" folder for this video. I hope you do a video on "unconscious bias" soon. 🙄

  33. Oh this explains my love for Eminem's music when he first hit the charts… His music is like therapy…. Awsome video so informative.

  34. I feel so angry as if it is not humanly possible to become more angrier!!!!! I feel powerless like other people always get their own way and they get to feel like they are apart of young people and I am always pushed to the side and made to be someone I'm not

  35. I have a problem … I have a very bad relationship with my little sister , you might think it's normal between siblings but it is not as simple as that , we fight over everything! Ant it always seems like my parents git her side in every situation … maybe it's because I'm the eldest ? So I always get angry at her and end up doing things that are NOT like me at all … I feel like … I'm turning into a monster ! And I am scared to be rejected by people because of that …. but unfortunately I don't think about that when I'm so angry! Please give me some advice if you can … I don't know what to do

  36. I'm so angry and sad and irritated by my family and friends and I want to be happy and I just don't know how to be happy anymore.?

  37. I dont fear my anger I just dont like the Demon that takes control of everything when it happens I dont like to be angry its horrible things that cause anger to me really are not trivial they are important, valuable or my beliefs or what Id fight for or have in the ways I did under those times. These days I am not that hostile kid who will intentionally go fight people or be that way because I have been there and done that and the Monster that that version of me was has evolved onto someone else. I WILL ALWAYS RUN TOWARDS BEING ABLE TO EXPRESS HAPPINESS AND BEING NICE cause things just work better no matter who you deal with it could be anyone….hostility does not work it embeds a distaste it holds grudge & it decays the vibrant person that now you truly are the amazing person you truly are……….its just so hard at times and honestly some scenarios I faced in my life I wish I could reverse time and deploy the new me there the "learned" me version and take ultra control of and handle the people that were causing trouble this is something(s) that occurred in NYC when I was there growing up all I know is I did what I could without compromising myself or like getting into legal issues but I cannot even tell or decribe to you what I really truly wanted and still would do because its a evil thing and I still feel nothing about it because those people were out to hurt people myself including. With other things I just want happiness, even with authority figures I think happiness and like niceness and understanding is what builds relationships or now like allows a seamless process its as simple as that. I am not perfect but I wish life was where I could just be happy and my loved ones too everything else I got this. And you are right you are angry when threatened now. Yes but you can be controlled and just handle things too. Depends.

  38. Much trauma… integration of a dread priest… past life regressions… you bet there has been a massive amount of anger. Going through all this while mundanes are kicking you while you are down the whole time… I am amazed I did not go full Destroyer. It is good to have friends.

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