You know what really gets my panties in a bunch? The fact that people have to apologize for how they feel about stuff. I get people coming to me in my various inboxes about stuff going on in their lives, and then they apologize at the end like “Sorry to be a bother. Sorry to be a burden.” Hey. You are not a burden, okay? I’m not gonna blame you for feeling the need to apologize because I feel the need to apologize constantly even though it shouldn’t be a thing. I think the reason we feel the need to apologize for how we feel is that people just don’t want to talk about feelings ever. They for sure don’t want to talk about mental illness because that’s inconvenient for them… for them, and not us who are living it of course. If I had $1 for every time I said I was depressed and somebody said “oh don’t be!” I’d be very wealthy. I would not be living in this small apartment. I’d be loaded, just living the life, you know what I mean? I try not to get mad at people for this particular mess up because it comes from a good place. I like to call it well-intentioned ignorance, but it’s still ignorance. Let’s just take mental illness out of the equation right now. If someone they’re feeling any way about anything and you say, “oh don’t be like that!” That’s dismissive as heck. If someone comes to you and tells you they’re upset about something you don’t get to tell them that they’re not upset about that thing. Or that the thing is not actually upsetting. You don’t get to do that. We’re all a little bit guilty of this. I’ve definitely been guilty of this before in my life. It’s important to remember that your experience is not universal. Just because you may feel a certain way about something, somebody else might feel a different way. And that’s okay provided no one’s getting hurt in the process. Let’s bring it back to the mental illness bit. Let’s say someone is having a panic attack. That’s not fun. Nobody wants to have those. I have seen this and had this done to me so many times, where somebody has been trying to help meaning very well, but what they’ve done instead is invalidate my feelings. And they’ve done so by telling me that there’s no reason to be freaking out, that the thing I’m stressed about isn’t actually that stressful. Honestly, in my mind, I know this. I know that, but I’m still freaking out about it right now. If somebody is feeling something, they need to have that feeling validated, so they can move forward and through it, because that’s how feelings work. Especially with feelings of stress, panic, and sadness, if you try to ignore and run away from them, they’re only going to get worse because they don’t just go away. If someone comes to you and you say something like, “Don’t be depressed!” or “Don’t be stressed about this thing,” even though you want to help and I know you want to help, you’re not helping and may be making it worse. Just don’t tell people how to feel about stuff. Listen to them, get a feel for what’s going on, and if you can help at all, go for it! If you can’t help, that’s fine because very few people expect or want other people to come in and fix their lives. Very few people want that. It’s also impossible to fix someone. People fix themselves, with help of course. People hold their hands. They push them through doors. But in the end, people fix themselves, and that’s really important for people to do. I don’t know man. I got a few messages recently and they upset me because it involved people telling people how to feel about stuff, and I don’t like that at all. If you have any thoughts on the matter, you can always leave them in the comments and I would love to hear them. That’s about it for me. I love y’all a lot. And I will see you on Friday. FWAH jamz Hey friends. If you didn’t know, I make videos every Mon and Fri. Now you know that. Subscribe for more. You can also check me out on other social networks, and I would love to see you there. Later.