ASPERGERS Meltdowns: What YOU need to know about OVERLOAD

in this video I’ll be talking about
Asperger meltdowns so that by the end of the video you’ll know what it’s all
about coming right up hey what’s up I’m Dan
I have Asperger’s syndrome ADHD OCD and dyslexia I make weekly videos on autism
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before we get started on today’s video I just want to ask you a quick question do
you know anybody with an autism spectrum condition and if so are they related to
you via work or family members I’m just interested to know so let me know in the
comments below so we can start this conversation so what is Asperger’s
syndrome really to begin with Asperger syndrome is a lifelong neurological
condition which affects certain parts of the brain and impacts your ability for
communications and things like that so what I will do is I will leave a link in
the card above here of what actually autism and Asperger’s is so you can
check that video at the end of this video so let’s get started on a billion
meltdowns so an Asperger meltdown is where a person with Asperger syndrome
has an overload of stimulation so they they have an overload and then they
start lashing or it could be uncontrollable crying panic attack out
of breath they could be thrashing about that they’ve actually hit their head
their hair they could maybe stomp their feet or throw their hands about and
actually break some of their limbs I’ve actually done this I’ve broken my hand
twice here and my wrist and my hand on this one and it happens quite often and
I guess it’s more often than not that you know that there’s something kind of
really like an outburst of anger like you’ve reached your maximum capacity of
what you can take with and that’s really what a meltdown is so it kind of like
comes on comes on stronger and then boom it happens you have this meltdown which
is this outburst of the energy overload stimulation overload and you just kind
of just I don’t know you know you just everything just comes out so I can
energy every energy piece that you have in your body just blurts out in this
meltdown so how does it happen now and a meltdown could happen because of a
trigger so there could be a single trigger that will trigger somebody so it
could be that that triggers I’m talking about violent it could be that they have
been losing a lot of sleep they’re getting really really cranky because you
know having this condition also keeps you up at night you a lot of people find
difficult to sleep with absolutely syndrome so having this and it could
just push you to you’re at the end of your tether and then this is how a
meltdown could happen there’s other ones where there could be an environmental
factor an environmental trigger rather than a personal trigger these are all
very very in fact is of something that could actually happen and why does it
happen and an interesting one is why did these happen why do these triggers occur
now the trade has happened because people with absolutely syndrome like
routines to the like things to be the same so say you know someone was doing
the havoc of halfway through their daily routine and then it changed suddenly
this could cause a meltdown because the overload of the the consequence of
changing at the routine is just too much so you know if we were planning on going
up to this place to have dinner and we booked everything to go up to this place
for dinner so we thought all got that for dinner but we get there and it’s
closed unexpectedly then that would cause a huge huge panic a meltdown
that’d be very involved there’d be emotional triggers involved will be all
kinds of stuff involved and this would really cause and set the scene for a in
emotional meltdown on McKenna and Albus and Asperger’s meltdown so that’s how
that happens we’d like to learn more about the symptoms of Asperger’s and
autism I’ll leave a card in the cab here so you can go check that out or
leave in a link in the description below so you can check out after this video
again so a lot of people ask what do you do if you see someone having these
outbursts these autism Asperger meltdowns and the best thing to do is
try and calm the person down it’s difficult to do because the person has
gone through these kind of this motion of okay let’s put into perspective it’s
like you know say you say you’re gonna go to the store and pick up some bread
before going to either birthday party so you go to the that you go to get the
bread but then the stores closed and then you think oh so then you have to go
your whole routine is thrown out you have to like then find a bread somewhere
else so then you have to you’ll be late for the birthday party it’s not gonna go
exactly how you planned it’s not safe it’s not secure and then all these
triggers are like a domino effect imagine like hitting down loads of
dominoes that you just can’t get your head around and you thinking oh my
goodness house is ever gonna end so that’s what kind of mind state you’re in
if you are having an iceberg and meltdown and then there’s a controllable
crying there’s a panic attack from the panic that’s happening you get shot on
to breath and you chest hit and you’re stressed and all the stuff is happening
so my advice would be that if you see someone having one of these meltdowns is
that you have to comfort them and then it’s trying to find out what is going on
you see where the problem lies and if you can actually help that problem maybe
you’ll come up with a solution because Plan B’s actually do work and they help
reduce a lot of stress so they say hey you know there’s another bakery down the
street which I know so we can go there to get the bread so those kind of things
are our ways of like you know problem solving for the issue that’s a hunt and
another one is to get the person to breathe because breathing is really
important real deep breaths because get into deep breath will help them calm
down and then make sure that they try not to hit themselves or hit of war or
hit the floor or something because again this is something that I’ve come across
where I may be lashed now I’ll hit my hands here hit my hand there and then it
would just break my hands I’ll break my toes and it’s not good so you want to
try to avoid any of that and also hitting head ideas quite a lot on them
if and I’ve learned how to deal with it now so I don’t do it as much but now
there are ways of reducing meltdowns so I’m going to talk a little bit about
reducing marathon’s so if you you know taking care of somebody with Asperger’s
syndrome or somebody with Asperger’s into myself this is what me and my
girlfriend managed to do to help reduce some of my mouth pounds and that’s
basically pre-empting what’s going to happen so
you kind of think ahead a little bit so you think okay well
we’re gonna go to a park or we’re gonna go for a walk of a mountain or in a
field or something and we’re gonna know we’re gonna be there over lunch time so
rather than me freak out when it gets lunchtime
we’re worried now I haven’t had food and I don’t think staff to eat at certain
times and stuff because I get kind of worried about all these things my
partner would then say okay well we’ll take we’ll take food with us and we’ll
also take notes and foxes and we’ll also take a lot of water with us and we’ll
take everything every event reality that we can try and cover we’ll cover because
the more eventualities that you can cover for the best so if we say we’re
going to go into this restaurant today but if they’re closed we’re going to go
to another one or another one so you have a plan the a B and C this again is
covering all eventualities and this is very very powerful so you may be able to
really reduce some meltdowns that may actually happen because you’ve already
thought of hey if that doesn’t go to plan what’s the next plan and if you
also go through those Plan B’s C’s and DS maybe with the person who had thought
in the spectrum condition then they will understand that better they will
understand the fact that there are other plans and then you they’ll see a route
with those plans so that’s another way doing it another one is looking out for
triggers so sometimes you know that they may be sitting triggers so maybe certain
noises or certain smells can set off a meltdown so if someone is having
essentially overload to smells and sights so you know to avoid those areas
where the smells are present so say it’s a deli and the person doesn’t like the
smells and the deli because they trigger there’s meltdown then you avoid the deli
if it’s a store and the lights are too much for the century overload and they
can’t deal with the lights then you don’t go to that store and you avoid
those type of lights so these are ways of reducing it so it’s always kind of
thinking clever and that’s what we’ve learned and like I learnt from my
partner because she is a professional working in the field with autism
Asperger’s so she kind of helps me with all those things and I want to relay
this information to you guys so for me one of the the main things is that after
you have an Asperger’s meltdown you’re completely drained emotionally
physically mentally everything is just drained and you just feel like you know
you just this lethargic bauble that just sits on the floor like well I mean just
slumped you can’t move it your hands are tightly all the muscles
are tight your chest is tight it’s horrible
and one of the things is that recovering from that takes such a long time I feel
like a recovery from a meltdown can take anywhere from three days to a week which
is crazy because it completely just disfigures you for that the whole week
off about three days when you want to go on and do those things that you normally
do so one of the things that I will try and do is try and find ways of coping
now ways of coping with it I found two things at work one is eating foods that
make you feel comfortable that you know so I eat healthy most of the time and I
try my best to be as healthy as possible but I know that I have comfort foods so
having comfort foods helps really relax me and helps me kind of less tense so
this is something that I would advise if you have a certain type of food that you
really like and you have a meltdown then after the month I’ll maybe try have that
food and the second one I think this one really really is like the big one for me
and this really helps me a lot is that when I’m high so I’ve had a meltdown and
then I’m feeling like crap and in a day after all the same day I come home I’m
sitting on the sofa and I’m just really really just lethargic and I don’t know
what to do and I’ve got these like downer feelings because it also dips
your mood and your Muto’s write down one thing I like to do is I like to create
things like creating videos or making music or making websites or creating or
will create and focus on work and one of the things I like to do to create those
things is look for instructions and people in our field so say you’re
interested in motorcycles or BMX bikes then you go on the internet and you
search for how to build BMX bikes or whatever is your usual research pattern
is and then watch that information so you’re you don’t have to do anything
physically you’d have to concentrate or focus your mind but you can still get
that information for the thing that you really enjoy and I found that that works
the best out of anything is that when you watching something that or reading
something that you really enjoy that your main focus or obsession of interest
is this helps so much with overcoming and coming around from having a meltdown
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99 thoughts on “ASPERGERS Meltdowns: What YOU need to know about OVERLOAD

  1. Thank you for your videos. Can you help me with something? What is a good gift for someone with autism or asp? My couple does not like anything. He finds everything a waste of time or money. Any idea? I have also done special things and nothing but I get the same "complain" result.

  2. My partner has Aspergers so I started looking into it more though I'd actually already been watching your videos occasionally before that. But now I'm finding I can relate to a lot of the things you're talking about and that's kinda scary…

  3. I'm 31 and just learning about my condition and my wife came home and seen that I closed my eyes with my fist. After I lost my phone in the Uber I took. Tried making a long story short.

  4. My son has alot of asperger's symptoms and his number 1 trigger is change in routine. I as a parent am trying to educate myself because not knowing triggers can really cause much more harm.

  5. I have severe autism and my mom says stop crying when I’m in a meltdown I showed her this video and she didn’t do anything she just keeps yelling

  6. My sister and my partner are both autistic and both got the diagnosis within the last month and a half

  7. I get uncontrollably angry hitting my leg repeatedly (actually caused really bad bruising before) this rage boils down into just continuous sobbing for possibly hours.

    One of the worst things you can do is demand specifics liks you need to tell me what's wrong or come on man this is ridiculous

    This will only makr the person feel terrible. Melt downs are very difficult and too demand specifcs or make them feel belittled will only make it worse

  8. Per the intro question, my maternal niece and nephew teenaged have been officially diagnosed with ADHD and high functioning autism. My oldest sister & I are both in our 50s, not officially diagnosed, hopefully soon. Both of our parents also show signs, they are in their late 70s.

    I recently experienced an overload situation. There was a grand opening of a new very large big box in town, there were hundreds and hundreds of people within a confined area. By 10 minutes in touring the store, I was already feeling mentally foggy and anxious. I was prepared for that so I was doing okay at first. However, walking up to the register when I saw there were still hundreds more waiting in line, it was like a switch went off in my head. What little restraint I had I managed to keep my arms at my sides but I couldn't keep my hands from flashing like closing and open. It was like I was an animal there were no conscious words in my mind only an instinct to escape. If somebody had needed me to talk at that point I would not have been able to. Luckily my dear husband who knows this about me, calmly grabbed my arm, put the stuff we were going to purchase off to the side, and acted like a six-foot-two, 300lb linebacker to clear a path to the exit way. 🙂 The last few feet I took off on my own and nearly ran to the exit, where I had just enough sense left to move off to the side a few feet and wait for hubby to catch up. I had clearly under estimated how crowded and overwhelming that store would be. Lesson learned, now I know to pay attention to things before I go in a store. if the parking lot is a nightmare the store will likely be too much for me.

    All throughout my life I have experienced situations like this where my mind freezes and goes completely blank and I can only react, I usually can't talk when I'm completely overwhelmed. Until just this last couple of years I had no words to describe what was happening to me to other people when I did something "Weird" and had to explain myself and my odd behavior. Thank you to everyone for helping me start to understand and better plan and handle these types of overload situations.

    Question for the community, maybe a suggestion to create something ? When I was having that anxiety moment and couldn't verbalize save simple yes/no's, I think I could have been able to use sign language. Is there already some sort of short hand signal, sign language, that someone could use when they are in an overload state? For me I would want to be guided to somewhere private like a bathroom and given a few minutes to breathe and calm down. Trying to say all that when my primitive brain is in control would be impossible. A common hand signal however could let my family and friends know I needed their help. There's something to be said about discretion, if I'm having a overload breakdown, the last thing I'd need is a crowd of well meaning people ringing me in and calling the paramedics. 🙂 The obvious answer might be an SOS type hand signal, but that implies somebody would be of a mind enough to verbalize what is wrong. Better I think would be a discreet way to tell a friend "Help! Too much! Get me out!". My hubby knows if my hands are flashing open and closed, I need his help.

  9. At 45 I believe I have learnt how to avoid meltdowns I tend to have back up plans at the ready in case of changes or overload so meltdowns for me are minimal now

  10. My cousin is severe autism but from his mother side there’s no autism, I’ve being looking the possibility that I could be autistic but so far I consider the possibility that I could be one… tons of research to see if there is a high functional autism then a came to cross with Aspergers … I even made an appointment with a psychology cause the trade, the action I do beat my self when I’m angry and there is uncontrollable anger when I’m overwhelmed, when I go buy clothing it gets me angry with no reason, if I go alone to buy clothing I grab it and I want to get out of the store, I don’t like to look people in the eye, noises I can get very angry around some type of music it gets me angry like ridiculous angry, when I’m doing task and counting by mind block I can’t think straight so people around. Me get mad at me to the point I can’t hold. A job. I am an artist and I am really good at it, but I’m also a flute player I know how to read music and for that you have to be focused so far I’m kinda sad cause. I have found some answer and I won’t say I am autistic till I get my diagnosis… thanks for the videos I eve search in Cambridge university about the subject… so far by description I am autistic but I need to know how my brain is wire.

  11. Ive been reading everything about asperger because i have traits, including what i call my crisis and im wondering if it could be meltdowns and if an allistic individual with another condition could have them? I lost something important, couldnt find it and it triggered me tonight, a few days ago i didnt have my belt that i always wear so i had another crisis etc… im 18 :/

  12. Had one yesterday.. pushed back my left knuckle hitting a metal door. My hands are so deformed now

  13. One of the worst things for me that can cause this for me is when something happens to my headphones.

  14. Am I special?

    I have aspergers and I have never thrown a “meltdown”.

    I also am just very socially awkward.

    I’m cunfuzzled.

  15. My daughter is on the spectrum. She has lots of issues with day to day social cues. She don’t comprehend the information that don’t change but she is still confused. Like the time of day comprehending quarter to 3, a minute and a half. The difference between our zip code and house number.

  16. I had a silent meltdown at work (law firm) yesterday. Over several days I had been mostly putting my time into scanning and profiling into our case management software newly delivered case related mail. Lately this has been comprised of way more documents than usual. Other types of projects had to be put aside as adding legal documents to the software is priority. While dealing with the tail end of this task I was fixing a mistake I made regarding forgetting to clock out during my lunch break and at the moment I needed to have internet access for resolving my missed lunch hour recording, the internet connection went down throughout the firm. Consistent precision is of course an important thing to us Aspies/Autistics so here I was trying to fix something that I couldn't and the time incorrectly ticking away regarding my lunch break/work time accuracy. This combined with the prolonged and tedious legal-document-saving-into-case-management-software-for-too-long project and I was having a muted raging meltdown (can't let a bunch of attorneys, of all people, hear my fury!). Despite knowing my work time logging mistake could easily be resolved by accounting department, I still had my meltdown.

  17. I had no idea this was what I was doing. I developed all these elaborate plans to prevent these types of meltdowns, but I never told anybody. Just, wow! This is an eye opening video for me.

  18. I love your realness mate. Getting my diagnosis soon. Just turned 22 and these videos so relatable to anyone whos faced stigma for being different. Life's overwhelming for someone with autism.

  19. When I am about to have a meltdown I start swering at everyone and everything than I start crying and I can cry for 19 hour without stopping and I do mot even know what I am crying about.

  20. I worry for my grandson, aged 5. He's isolated at school whilst he tries to integrate into his classes (but he does have a fantastic support group), he only does half days. My heart just cries out for him and I need to know how to help.

  21. Guys, stuffed animals can help a lot with meltdowns. I used to lose control and hurt myself several times a day, but I bonded closely to a beanie baby that I now carry everywhere, even in public. My stuffed cat has helped by being a close friend. She has limited my meltdowns to just once or twice a month instead of every day. It took awhile to bond but it's really been worth it! 🐈

  22. I have a 13 year old pubescent granddaughter with aspergers. She gets violent and abusive a lot of the time. Help!

  23. My boyfriend opened up to me that he is autistic and im trying to do research so i can be the most helpful and loving i can be

  24. I just had a meltdown in the supermarket with my 3 year old. I love her to pieces, but she and her behavior are my triggers. Sometimes I feel she would be better off living with her dad and stepmum, but she's too young to understand that I'm not rejecting her. Between a job I hate and a toddler doing toddler things, I feel like I'm drowning.

  25. This is probably a bit dangerous for me to put on a Google-owned site, but here goes.

    tw: self-harm

    My fiance has asperger's, and I have several friends who are also on the spectrum. But that's not why I came to this video.
    The real reason is that I've had issues with self-harm for nearly 2 decades now, and I'm not even in my 30s yet. I've talked to wellbeing, and they suspect I also have asperger's. I've already booked a GP appointment to go further on it, but in the meantime, I've wondered whether my main issue with self-harm, or at least the more concerning part of it, is actually meltdowns. I feel this domino effect that you're describing, the sudden outburst, and I know all too well how exhausting it is, afterward. But it's less of a sensory issue (though i do have those) and more of how I've done x thing wrong, then y thing wrong, then when I really think about it, it all adds up to what seems like 20 different things that need retribution. I try and fight it as much as I can, but before I know it, I'm watching myself go to town on my own body. Sometimes I can fight it completely, sometimes it's just less than a second before the incident and I can't react before I start doing whatever. I used to be very creative with what I'd do, but that nearly got me killed on accident. So I've done everything I can not to go in that direction, again.

    The second part of why I think it's meltdowns is that when the self-harm started, that's when my random crying stopped. I used to cry over the dumbest things, almost every day, and I knew they really weren't things to get upset over. So why was I so upset? There was even one time where someone tried helping me with his kind words, and much as I wanted to thank him, I still cried harder. The same out-of-body feeling, where I could really sense something was wrong was there. The same domino effect was happening. I even got the same sense of exhaustion after the tears were gone, and i'd find myself hiccupping uncontrollably and very randomly. I thought I was having these temper tantrums and it made me inherently a bad person, not worth being around. The kids I knew certainly thought so. Maybe they really couldn't be controlled? I know I tried.

    Anyway, I could probably go on about it, but I do kind of want to know whether this would fit. I know I'm getting a GP to refer me to the local center for asperger's, but if it's more common in this case, then I'd like to know.

    Sorry if I bothered anyone with this info.

  26. Knives forks, water…..Now I know where that advert "living out the back of the car" come from!.

  27. When I was younger I had a meltdown in the playground I remember crying and hitting my friends when they tried to help even hit a classroom assistent yelling get off me! Thankfully it didn't last too long and I apologised
    I've had a few since then most are uncontrollable crying or occasionally anger outbursts

  28. I had a meltdown today and I smashed my phone. I feel so bad about it. 1,500th comment by the way.

  29. Hey , I'm son has been diagnosed with higher fuctioning ASD . He is now 4 and a half , I'm really trying hard to understand him to help him . Thankyou for information as a parent .

  30. My brother has Asperger's. He doesn't have meltdowns often but EASILY gets into extremely nasty moods and will snap at ANYTHING! saying foul things

  31. Thank you for making this video! I am an Aspie and when I hit overload I yell literally as loud as I can repeatedly until I lose my breath or do Lamaze breathing if I'm trying to control it. I have a history with hitting my head but I haven't done that for a while. I'm trying to learn more about what leads to overload so I don't get to that point when I can avoid it. I'm getting better at starting to warn people when I can't take any more input. (Social interaction and not knowing what to expect are my main triggers. Changes in routine can derail me more than anything!!!!!)

  32. At least you’re well behaved when you have your meltdowns. I’m 25 years old have Aspergers and beyond embarrassed that at my age I still have big scale meltdowns and I don’t behave! where I shout at my parents, ask childish questions, say am I a bad person, say have I ruined people’s lives because of my behaviour. I’ve said many offensive words in my meltdowns and worried I will be branded a criminal if I meltdown in public and be sent to prison which means I’ll be hated by everyone including my family and other autistic people! I’m embarrassed to be this childish at 25, so I think out of kindness and respect until I stop this behaviour even at home with my parents, I will stay away from any kind of romantic relationship with anyone and leave them alone in that purpose. I don’t even have many friends and have lost a few through my meltdowns. People often say my autism is no excuse for my behaviour and that makes me so angry and melt down more cos I feel like a wrong person and a badden 😡😡😡! I need your help dan. You obviously can handle a relationship which means you always behave well because I don’t and my meltdowns are childish I remain single and will likely be alone when I no longer have my parents. My meltdowns are always about my past bad behaviour as I feel I can’t be forgiven, and I’ve got myself into trouble in the past and I meltdown because I can’t take the shame and accept it!!! Because of my behaviour I think I should leave girls alone and never have a relationship. I believe my childish offensive meltdowns give Aspergers a bad name, and until two years ago they were often violent, meaning I have to be branded as a thug for the rest of my life, and a villain, and that is a shame I have to learn to accept, and I feel some people like me have problems with autism and toxic masculinity and I worry I am a toxic person and my autism is no excuse, that I am the excuse and I’m a waste of space! I am also a very boring person because I used to have a lot of interest like music but all I’ve done is sit on my arse for the last year watching gameshows and I haven’t written any music for over a year so shame on me!!! I believe that you can get bad people with Aspergers and I worry I am one! I feel it’s too late to change as I’m too far gone now at 25!! I am actually in meltdown while writing this comment! I just need to be validated and excused for my bad behaviour in meltdowns and accepted by someone romantically! But because my meltdowns are temper tantrums I know I will be hated and alone for the rest of my life, which is like serving a life sentence of solitary confinement in prison!

  33. I necessarily don't have meltdowns but I do get frustrated a lot if my routine is out of whack LOL when I was a kid I had a lot of meltdowns because well I don't like change but now that I'm an adult I'm 27 years old and these changes don't bother me as much as when I was a child

  34. I have aspirgers my self and I magerly get meltdowns the only was to calm down is to be left alone but that never happens so I constanlly have it hmm mostly family start it
    and this video has way to meny ads

  35. My daughter's psychologist doesn't believe she's on the spectrum even though she has all Aspergers red flags. I will get a new specialist for this.

  36. Me and my 15 year old brother both have Aspergers and we have sleeping issues and we have to take melatonin or else we'll stay up all night

  37. I’ve got Tourette’s, and the meltdowns remind me of a tic attack but not and it’s cool to see how it works for different people

  38. I have "anger issues" (it's labeled by my mum) But we have seen a doctor. She didn't say anything.
    My brother has asperger's and he thinks I have the symptoms he has.

  39. My 8 year old son has ASD. He has frequent meltdowns. Thanks so much for sharing this information.

  40. Hi Dan. My son is 14 and was diagnosed with asd when he was 10. He is having trouble accepting his diagnosis. He attends an austic unit in a mainstream school. He often swears at the teachers and refuses to do any work. I would appreciate any advise you can give me. Thanks.

  41. My meltdowns aren't as severe. It's mainly when I get overly upset and can't communicate what I'm feeling properly, especially when I start overthinking things because of stress. I just tend to get very emotional and become unable to properly deal with my feelings. Usually the most aggressive thing I'll do is raise my voice, but most of the time it's just a lot of crying and feeling very sad and/or frustrated over something that seems like it would be easy to deal with (but of course for us Aspies it's not). It can be over the littlest of things, but I have gotten much better at brushing things off. Only occasionally do I get really emotional like that.
    Triggers can include:
    •Planning something I really wanted to do and it not happening for whatever reason
    •An object I value getting ruined, messed up or lost
    •Confrontation with another person
    •Being tired and unable to express my feelings
    •Embarrassment or guilt about a friend, family member or other relationships
    •Not being able to get someone to understand what I'm feeling
    •Seeing something related to my worst fears (when I'm scared I often get emotional)
    I call them meltdowns because I can't always control how upset I get, in fact I'm hardly ever able to and that's part of the problem. Although I have done things that you could consider to be aggressive, I'm not usually an aggressive person. Like I said, depending on how upset I get, the most aggressive thing I'll do is raise my voice. They also happen when I feel like I can't control my situation properly. I get overwhelmed and anxious.

    Anyway that's how meltdowns affect me, thank you for this video 🙂

  42. My younger brother is on the autism spectrum and was diagnosed when he was 6 (he is now 12). I, myself, have been diagnosed with ADHD (with out the hyperactivity) at age 9. I think I may be on the spectrum as well but I have never been tested so I may not be even though I display some of the symptoms

  43. Typically I bite my hand and throw myself into the nearest soft surface and thrash myself around. I actually have a few scars from where I bit through the skin.

  44. I have a good friend and a girlfriend both diagnosed with autism. I mostly know how to handle their meltdowns and anxiety since I myself have traits of autism, but I found this video very useful nonetheless 🙂

  45. I kind of need some help, I’m 14 and have Aspergers and a lot of times when something bad happens to me I cry, I don’t know how to stop it, I don’t know if I’ll just grow out of it, and I can’t find anything online about how to stop, and I am hoping that you might be able to show me a way to stop.

  46. Late diagnosis here. Was diagnosed at mid 30s. I was also a working professional in the field of autism, handling autistic kids to teenagers. During those years, I saw myself in these kids/teenagers.

    I've been living so long without knowing I'm an Aspie. Am very glad that I am clear about who I really am.

    I have tons of regulation strategies to calm myself down, no longer getting pissed every single second. Took off my masking when needed, and never felt so happy.

  47. I suspect that I have undiagnosed Asperger’s and recently as an adult I’ve had multiple overall sensory overloads which results in me being lethargic, depressed and sluggish for up to a week, just like you said, completely drained! I also had one or two major meltdowns in which I had severe panic attacks and had to force my brain to work to rationalise the situation to overcome the debilitating panic, which also drains me pretty badly. In fact as I am writing this up, I am currently in another overload episode. I’ve been dead sluggish for 3 days… I am so tired and I need help, but I just don’t know where to get help… Playing instrument helps to detangle my mind, but I have no access to any of it at the moment. I’m on a budget 😬

  48. Very much adhd with a hint of asd. Have a son and daughter on the spectrum and a son with adhd. My meltdowns occur att home or in my car. I try very Hard not go show it because i get really angry wih everyone nearby. I'll go into another room and let it off by hitting walls (hurts like…) or just yell while listeing to music(LOUD).
    But as you stated yourself, being prepared as far as you can, is the best way.
    Oh…and always bring snacks and water!

  49. I have Aspergers and I get angry very easily, it doesn't take much. Today at the park it was the combination of the 97 degree heat, too many people, the fact that I forgot my parking pass and almost got a ticket for it that made me blow up while driving. I feel like a complete ass now that I've calmed down. This just happened about 20 minutes ago…. And I still feel terrible about it.😞😞(I was driving stupidly fast for a parking lot full of kids, that's the part that makes me feel like a horrible person)

  50. I feel for you man, I will be praying for you, let me just say to you that God is with you and if you ask God to help you , he will take care of you. Please just do this when you feel like a meltdown will about to happen, call to God and first thank him for helping you. Then ask him to cure your problem, after you that, watch what happens. I know God will answer your plea.

    God bless you man. May you live a happy and blessed life

  51. I'm sitting here, watching this. (I have High functioning autism). My shirt. My shirt smells like a campfire, I hate it. I don't like the scent on my clothes. I love the candle scent. I have already cried once because of the smell but I don't want to take it off because it's blue, and blue is my favorite color. I'm very sensitive to taste, smell, touch and sound. Any advice before this turns into a meltdown? Sorry for rambling on with this xx

  52. Hi Dan, Thanks for all your great vids. I have worked for years teaching students, including specific groups for Aspi's and other Auti's, here in Groningen, Holland. I'm busy starting up an after-school group for highly intelligent autistic teenagers* and am surfing to refresh and broaden my knowledge. I LOVE all the sites like yours, giving the Auti perspective. I have ADHD and am surprised by how much I recognise in how you describe your own idiosyncrasies. Keep up the good work!!!

  53. I had a dream you might like:
    All ASD folk in the World got sick of living with NTs and all sodded off to live on their own island. They were fine and developed a relatively peaceful, harmonious and independent society, where social interaction was always voluntary and far more subdued. Technology and medicine advanced rapidly. It was a real utopia. The rest of the world, however………….

  54. I am someone whom has Aspergers and one of the ways I calm myself is by singing a little song from my favorite game character. Link to it below. It is only 8 seconds long. It greatly helps me.

  55. Omg, I'm not officially diagnosed with ASD, but I have had these meltdowns and still have them. I have bit myself, hit my body, want to jump out of window if it was available. My body experiences these sensations which irritate me to the point where I can't even move; it's like I enter into a paralysis like state. This is triggered if I can't sleep; I notice that I feel I can't sleep, I will freak out. When I'm working on Khan academy to do math, and I get answers wrong, these sensations get triggered. These sensations shut down my brain.
    I hear voices it seems, I feel like I'm spiraling out of control. I can't look at my body because my body parts can feel distorted, and Large. It is horrible. I feel like I want to cut my body parts off that feel large an look large and distorted. I will scream so I can drown out my feelings. I will throw things and bang things to block out these sensations. To be succinct, these sensations are horrible to experience. These sensations are the cause of my psychological breakdown. If it feels like I'm having a breakdown.
    I've had these breakdowns as I call them since I was little.

  56. This happens to me when I argue with my wife and then realize that I am very wrong and have started a fight for no apparent reason other than to make myself feel like I am right. It's really just a symptom of extreme embarrassment for me… I start screaming, stomping my feet, flailing my arms and cursing. Anyone else do this?

  57. 1:18 my nephew is autistic but I'm actually watching a bunch of your videos because I suspect someone in a band that I listen to might have aspergers

  58. Not diagnosed but ever since i was little and up until now, if im having a meltdown i cant be touched and i have very little communication and im best left alone. In a shutdown others input helps though.

  59. With my meltdowns I get very stiff and start to curl up and bounce, I try to relieve some of the pressure that way. and I immediately look straight at the ground and try to leave the trouble

  60. My son has this and has extreme meltdowns. It hurts me to my core to see how much pain he is in. It’s constant anxiety for him.

  61. My husband has Aspergers and lucky me I get to be the kicking post. If I watch the time span I can generally tell that it's time for another fit but I am extremely busy so I lose track of time and I will get caught off guard. I get the whole jest of the disorder but I will tell you it has sucked the life out of me. It is very difficult to love someone who viciously verbally attacks on a very regular basis. For anyone in a relationship with an aspire be sure to study up so you know what you're in for.

  62. So I just had a meltdown at the library. Read a post on Facebook that really upset me. Yesterday, I posted a message tagging someone on Facebook saying that they're unable to give me a ride to an event next month because at a meetup, they told me their car is full. Today, I got a message on Facebook telling me that to them, it sounded like they were responsible for giving me rides. I wasn't trying to come off like that, I was just stating the facts of my situation.

    Feeling pretty rattled at the moment. I hope the person isn't too upset with me next time I see them at a meetup. I'm so upset right now I just feel like vomiting.

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